I'm 25 years old and I know I sound like I am 12. I really like him, I know he likes me too. I have a trusting problem. He gave me a few chances, always telling me to "chill" and "relax". I think I messed it up big time, cause after a few dates, I told him, "Look, it's fine if you want to have sex with other girls, but if you want to date me, I rather you not. But if you want to be with other girls, just don't call me..." At first he was scare. He told me. We have A LOT of chemistry,it's like a connection I never felt,u know?It's an unexplainable feeling of comfort and ease,you know?The last "sit down" he said he wishes me the best in life and that he's selfish,his career comes first and right now he doesn't have enough time for me.Had I played my cards right,things could've been different.You think there's hope for another chance with him?He always told me he likes me a lot, to have faith in how much he likes me,i'm so gorgeous,don't judge him cause he's a guy,etc..HELP ME!
2006-11-04 19:39:06 · 4 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having a set of values is not childish it is entering into adulthood. If he wants a committed relationship with all the benefits of true love he needs to be a one woman man. I hear this so often about woman who are gorgeous and they feel they must do what ever it takes to keep the man even let him cheat on them. You have more power in the relationship dynamic. It’s not a game to play or control but you need to know your own self worth. The other thing is if a man says his carrier comes first that strikes me as immature and self absorbed. They typically use money to control a woman and the woman play a game using sex to control them back. Love is no game.
Mature men can balance there vocational and relationship at the same time. If they are using woman as a rental car or hotel room they can pick up at as needed than you really not going to want this kind of relationship. Mature men realize a woman can give something to them they can’t get from work and can’t get from objectifying a woman. When I say Objectifying I am referring to the rental car type of man who likes to try all the cars in the parking lot just because he can and has the money. You don’t want a man that does not know what he wants he is the childish one.
I am not hard on this guy he seems to be typical and smart man because he found you. Don’t prove him wrong by letting him take advantage of you. He likes you cause your one of a kind and can bring balance to his demanding work style. He needs some one to come home to after a hard day’s work that can bring him balance and joy. When you give into his “rental car” mentality that you’re not giving him what he needs and eventually you both lose out. Your more like a Lamborghini (a very expensive car that is design for one owner for life) http://www.lamborghini.com/eng/lamborghini.html hand made just for one man. You’re like a Lamborghini cute, sweet, decent, nice, and cozy. You can get one for around 175k to 350k so if you picture your that kind of woman with the full package he is the one who should be clinging to you.
2006-11-04 20:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I did so far was the the book "Stop Getting Dumped". It has some excellent advice for women when dating. I can get clingy if I don't check myself and that's the fastest way to send a guy running. Get the book or check out the website. It's fantastic. Excerpt from website:::
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2006-11-05 03:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Fashionista 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks? Yeah, you went pyscho a little too soon.
2006-11-05 03:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by jk1005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh , don't worry!
If you can see ,he's ego , and it's not your fault!
Maybe he loved you,but it wasn't real love ,cause he frightened of your ultimatums!
Just forget about him ,he's mattress and coward :)
2006-11-05 03:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋