okay heres my question straight out
a month ago my boyfriend cheated on me and i came home after he dissapeared for 2 nights and found marks on his neck and i beat him up...the next night he called me and told me to come home so i did and we talked he explained that they never slept together but he let her kiss him then he pulled her away...but now that were back together i cannot seem to get intimate
is something wrong with me
my anxiety dissorder seems to be in a shitty state right now too
2006-11-04 19:34:41 · 24 answers · asked by Vampizzle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. There is never a good reason to beat him up. Always allow for explanation. If you can't accept his explanation, get rid of him.
2006-11-04 19:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Old Cripple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you but this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to be in. Once trust has been broken it is very hard to get it back. Besides if your boyfriend wants to stay in a relationship with you he will down play any misdoing on his part. Meaning he knew he couldn't deny that he was with someone in an intimate way because of the scratches on his back and being gone for two days. So instead he made the situation seem less sever by claiming they only made out. It's still an act of betrayal anyway he presents it.
2006-11-04 19:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by dessertrain08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some major trust issues now, and are questioning the validity of his answers. You are unsure he told you the whole truth. Most likely you will never trust him fully again. Nothing is wrong with you! It is him. If you love him enough to let it go and never talk about it, to truly forgive him and never question his faithfulness to you stay with him, otherwise you are wasting your time, marriage wont change it, neither will kids, and if you can't let it go let him go before you make mistakes that could last a lifetime!
Good Luck!
2006-11-04 19:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn’t matter anymore.
I used to sit and wonder to myself,
what it was, I did so wrong.
Could I have treated you different?
or wrote you, a beautiful song.
I loved you with all of my heart,
and I believed, you truly loved me.
You used to say, I was your true love,
and there was no place, you’d rather be.
How could a love so wonderful and pure,
change, from the day we first met.
Was it I, who did you wrong,
or a friend, I will never forget.
But now, it truly doesn’t matter anymore,
why, you hurt and cheated on me.
Because I know, deep in my heart,
It wasn’t I, who cheated on thee.
So I just want you to know,
that if you ever, think of us two.
My life was truly changed, my dear,
and I deserve, a lot better than you.
By: Kenny P aka- Cobra
2006-11-04 19:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
There is nothing wrong with you. You have every right to feel the way you do. The reason you can't be intimate with him is because you are thinking about what he might have done with someone else. It is normal to feel the way you do. You are a tremendous person to take him back and to actually listen to his side of the story.
2006-11-04 19:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right!! If my boyfriend gave me that anwer I'd beat him up again. Get rid of him...It shouldn't be a surprise that you have a problem getting intimate with him you beat him up, still doubt him, and it's obvioudly over. Move on, and don't take his no's for an answer.
2006-11-04 19:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being able to get intimate with him simply means you aren't totally stupid, that somewhere deep down you know he was lying. No one gets a hickey because they pulled away while someone was kissing them. He is a dog, plain and simple. Don't blame your womens intuition on your anxiety disorder, he is counting on that.
2006-11-04 19:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i belive u r in a rite state. as far about ur boyfriend listne, mayu be he is rite and may be wrong well he allowed a girl to kiss him when he alredy have u as his love???!!! i doubt yaar if ur love is stronge then u will forget this all and will never ask us this type of questions and if ur love is weak then sorry yaar its not v who help u its u who should help urself coz this type of relationships are very delicate so be careful and take a step.
2006-11-04 19:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously what your b/f did still bothers you. You feel that you've been wronged and he has not done enough to make feel like you're back in full control. I say you go out with your girlfriends and flirt big time. When you are in control again in your relationship you will feel better, maybe even well enough to be intimate.
2006-11-04 19:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by justdennis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your subconcious is telling u to get out!!
Something in u deep down doesnt believe him!!
Trust ur instincts chickee!!
A kiss is STILL cheating!!! Even if he pulled away!! Why was he in that place at that time with someone who wanted to kiss him!!!
2006-11-04 19:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋