What would be a proper way to behave around each of my brother's newer companion?
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My brother and I, both in our mid-20s, live in the same house. He's got an active nightlife and often brings a new girl home. In my usual self I would ignore these people completely, e.g., pretend I don't see anything.
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My questions for you: given my situation, is manner necessary? Why would you extend cordiality to (=wasting your time with) those whom you have no respect for and probably will never see again after the few days in your house? Or, in a completely different light, is this a manner of being a decent human being--in addressing others' presence and treating them as an equal regardless of who they are, where they come from, or what they're doing in your house?
2006-11-04 19:13:12 · 4 answers · asked by samearsi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Wow - you are pretty judgemental about these people --- are you that judgemental of your brother (who is the real whore for having all of these one-night-stands)!
Now - to get to your question - acknowledge them - wish them a pleasant day and that's really all that is required of any decent human being.
2006-11-04 19:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Karla R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a fine human being and i think it's great that you are so concerned with the treatment of others. i wish more people were like you.
as far as the question you are asking, i think all people deserve to be treated with respect and proper human dignity. think of it as you would a stranger you have an encounter with on the street (that's pretty much what these girls are anyway). you would nod, smile politely, a quick "how are you" or "hi" will suffice. i believe addressing a persons' presence is one of the simplest and easiest things that can be done to preserve civility and equality between people, regardless of who they are or where they come from. i think even though it is not always easy to do, particularly in your situation, it is the right thing to do. and this is not really going out of your way to extend a great deal of cordiality, which is not necessary on your part, but simply being a respectable and decent person yourself, even if the girls in your home are not.
as far as what the girls your brother is bringing home are doing in your house, well...he is inviting them to be there, and i believe that issue lies with him. you sound like a very reasonable person, can you discuss this with him and perhaps establish some boundries that would better suit you and your lifestyle? or at least find a common ground that will be fair to both of you that you can both live with. i would like for you to speak up for yourself and express what your wishes are for your home, it is vital one have peace and serenity in their home.
kudos to you for putting so much thought into how to handle what sounds like at the very least an awkward situation. i hope this helps you, and you deserve credit for trying to do the right thing.
2006-11-04 19:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by verykari♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather ignore them and stay in my room. My time is too precious to entertain people whom I might not see again.
2006-11-04 20:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your brother is a whore. Do you acknowledge him? If so, then do the same for his guests.
2006-11-04 19:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋