We were thinking of having a 3sum - my girlfriends idea, with another girl. Both doing stuff, making it equal. Do you think I would lose respect for her and begin to cheat on her?
2006-11-04 18:54:39 · 15 answers · asked by hello! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anyone ever been in this situation? What happend with your relationship after.. weve been together 2 years
2006-11-04 18:55:18 · update #1
I think that it will only serve to complicate the relationship - for your girlfriend watching you at it with someone else might be something she can not handle - talk about it a lot before proceeding.
2006-11-04 18:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by bovie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess some people can do this without any problems.. I ve heard that they set rules like its the other half of the couple that always finishes off and that you never do anything without the other partner ever.
The problem another couple had was not really a 3sum but close. It ended up breaking a marriage- after he slept with her without the other person there.... And yes you probably would lose some respect for her... the cheating part has nothing to do with that, its a choice you make.
2006-11-05 02:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by blondeokie73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having the 3sum would not make you cheat, your lack of loyalty, fear of commitment, curiosity and disrespect might though. All of these feelings can be altered with concious choices on your part. If you think these things may happen then you should not have the 3some unless you want those bad thoughts to happen. Since you are already thinking of cheating you may wish to reasses the situation and do something to strengthen your relationship. As for the 3sum you should only do it if or when you are comftorable. Don't be pressured.
2006-11-05 03:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by charity2882 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you gf suggested it, it may be that your gf is bi-curious not bisexual! Keep in mind no matter what you agree on there are gonna be some emotions that either of you might feel that may become too much to deal with. You may get jealous of this other girl pleasing her, possibly better than you. Or your gf may get jealous of you pleasing another girl. It's a gamble your risking the relationship on this so think it through. I was actually approached by a gf years ago wanting to have a quad thing with 2 girl friends of hers. I knew she was bi-sexual before we got together but we talked about this long before we got serious. Unfortunately i ended the relationship because she didn't agree with me only wanting to be with her. She figured i would be thrilled to be with her and her 2 friends. Well just goes to show you ladies some guys aren't into that kind of thing! Good luck with you and your gf's decision!
2006-11-05 03:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem that I've ever had, occurs when, the male "finishes" with the other female. Your lady may take that as a betrail.
Enjoy the third party, in the capacity, of a sex toy. She is there for both of your pleasure. Don't read anything into it. Your lady may simply be curious, as to, the female sensuality.NEVER make the mistake, of entering, emotion into the equation. More importantly, discuss, the pro's & con's with your lady. Then decide, if it can be handled responsibly, as just a fun thing to do.
2006-11-05 03:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Prez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing anyone into your relationship will hurt both of you in the long run. It doesn't matter what sex they are. It doesn't matter if it was a mutual agreement to begin with. Eventually it will come back to haunt you.
Does she like her better than me?
Does he like her better than me?
Who's better in bed?
If you had to choose who would it be?
If she had to choose who would it be?
It opens a lot of dangerous doors.
Are you willing to risk a two year relationship for a fantasy? Is she? Is your relationship so stale that you feel the need to bring in a 3rd party? If so...you are going to only bring on the end faster. Think about it carefully.
2006-11-05 03:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't go for it....it will complicate things more.....it eventually become very hard to get to...you can bang on loosing ur respect with her(ur girl)...it never happens....even if there is enough trust on each other..... that after all has to hit with mistrust..disgust..hatred..suspicion...many more...
better.... don't say a stirct no but say a negetive...cause if u really like this girl...u really dont have it on a platter... it can only be treasured if she likes you back!! and don't afford to losse it pal!!
Best of luck
2006-11-05 03:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been the third wheel in a situation like this. if u r going to do it, make sure its a stranger n dont let emotions get into it. it will def heighten ur appetite for other girls but u need to stay strong. communication is def the answer. talk openly wit ur girl all the time. dont let temptation get the betta of u.
2006-11-05 03:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope your gonna see her with this other person and you ll look at her in a whole diff light don't do it its a trap maybe it seems kind of sexy to you being its two woman but she will see you with that other chick and it will be the end of your relationship every time she gets a chance she will throw it in your face don't do it
2006-11-05 03:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by witchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychologically, there will be bad effects !
We are not built for this, but if you really want to keep your girl friend all your life, dont do it !! But if you all are in it for fun.......
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2006-11-05 03:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by Syed M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋