How do i tell him?

Question

Ok, so its been like 5 months, since me and my es-bf broke up, and i still have feelings for him, but i don't know if he has feelings for me. all of my friends, noticed that when we were going out that i was so happy, no matter what happend i was always happy. but ever since we broke up, have been misarbale. i really want to tell him how i feel about him, but don't know how to do it. should i write him a letter, should go over to his house, and talk to him, or should i give him a call? what should i do?

Answer 1

In order to help out, I'd have to know why you broke up.

The problem with reconnecting after a breakup is that the issues that caused it are still there. Additionally, are you miserable because you still love him or are you miserable because there is nobody else in your life right now?

Try to focus for a while on the reason you broke up and then ask yourself if you can live with the relationship problem before attempting to contact him. Also, what if he is seeing someone else? Do you want to have to deal with that painful possibility?

Answer 2

Hmm, this is a very good question... If I were you I'd give him a call and agree to do something fun together that you both like to do, then afterwards, tell him how much fun you seem to have together and ask him if he ever wonders what might have happened if you stayed together, and then ask him if he might be interested in giving the relationship another try, citing that maybe you two just didn't know what you were doing the first time around and that you think things would be better this time around and that the past would stay in the past and that this could be a new beginning. It just might work. Best of luck to you and yours.- James

Answer 3

Call him, ask him to lunch or coffee to talk. If he says no or makes up excuses, he's probably moved on, so don't press the issue and make things worse for both of you. If he accepts and meets you for lunch nor coffee, then it's possible that he may still care for you...then you should tell him. Whatever you do, don't show up unannounced- that only works out in the movies. Besides, you never know what you might find. I went through the same thing with my first love. After several months, I couldn't bear it any longer so I drove to his house one night that I knew he was usually home, prepared to pour out my soul and let him know how I felt. As I went up to the front door, I heard giggling and moaning coming from a nearby open window. I looked inside, and there he was- in bed with another woman! He saw me, came rushing out...I was mortified...he was like, "are you okay?" but I just starting crying and left. It was horrible. I mean, we weren't together anymore, so he wasn't doing anything wrong, but since I still had feelings for him, it hurt like hell. I tried calling him after that, but he had already moved on. (Love can sure make us do stupid stuff sometimes!) Later on, the wounds healed and I met a wonderful man. Now that I look back, I'm glad that we broke up, because I never would have met the man of my dreams! Now, I'm not saying to give up- you never give up on love. What I am saying is that if he's moved on, don't beat yourself up trying to win him back. I believe that if it's meant to be, it'll happen. If not, it won't. So give him a call, feel it out, and go from there.

Answer 4

Well it depends on what kind of relationship you guys had when you guys were together did you openly talk about how you guys were feeling in your relationship or is it hard for you to express how your feeling. I mean if it's easier for you to write a letter then to talk to him face to face then thats what you should do, the worst that he could do is tell you that he doesn't have feelings like that for you anymore, if that happens then just try to think about that there are sooooo many more fish in the sea and if he doesn't want you then someone else will and that will be his loss.

Answer 5

If its been 5 months...that makes it tricky because i depends how your relationship with him as a friend has been. If you are civil with eacthother, i would say tell him in person, but if you dont get along, or dont talk at all anymore I would say write him a letter, BUT YOU NEED TO GIVE IT TO HIM. if you give him the letter you will know he got it for sure. also, when giving it to him. you tell him that its important and you need him to read it because it was too hard for you to tell him in person. DO NOT write him an email or anything like that. you need to be the one to tell him you need to talk-throo a letter or face to face, which ever is easier for you to do.
Also, 5 months is not a long time to get over a relationship. Of corse your going to be miserable darling! you must have broken up for a reason-try to remember what that was and decide if you want to go through the heart ache of trying to fix it. does he deserve you? did he do something to you?

Answer 6

i am not sure if both of you are still friends after the breakup but im assuming you arent.

in that case, try to weasel your way back into his life as normal friends first; call him a few times.. talk to him.. ask him how things are going and all that stuff.. when you think you have gained enough trust from him, ask him out for a simple meal. over time, you should be able to tell if he still is interested in you or otherwise.

its a little too harshly direct to be spilling your guts all over the place for this guy right after 5 months of no personal contact.

Answer 7

Well, i think that you first need to think about why you broke up in the first place. I find that when i see exes, I tend to forget the reason why I broke up with them in the first place, and then we get together, and well... it just doesn't work out because we both still can't make it work. However, you really seem into this guy, so I recommend that you tell him how you feel. you never know, he may feel the same way. Good Luck!!!! :)

Answer 8

It depends on the reason why you broke up and who broke it off. If YOU broke it off then I would talk to him. Call him and tell him you want to meet somewhere to talk. If HE broke it off then your best to let it go and try to move on. Life isn't easy and we all have those "falls". You WILL get over it. I've been there before. It's not easy but it will get better with time.

Answer 9

Give him a call and let him know how you feel. That's better then thinking "what if"... the worst thing that could happen is that he tells you that he doesn't feel same way and then you know that you definetley have to move on but at least you tried.

Answer 10

Give him a call! Be prepared though. He might be in a relationship already. Take it easy and see how he feels. Maybe go out a casual lunch or something and see what happens! Good luck!