I feel so lost and empty...?

Question

My mum does more things for my brother and sister, and even my boyfriend.

She treats me more like im an outsider than her daughter, she always cancels things that we plan, but never with anyone else. I have told her that she treats me different but she doesnt listen.

No-one will tell her that im right, and it makes me feel worse cos i feel like everyone is on her side and not mine.

This has always been going on. I feel more empty and lonely and I dont know what to do anymore..

I feel like standing infront of a train but i know suicide doesnt solve anything.

I feel alone, and scared, I feel lost and I dont know why im even bothering with this..

Sorry im just bit c h ing now..

I feel unimportant even with my bf and I know he treats me like a princess

What can I do about this.. I tried talking to mum but she dont beleive me and i know she cant see it...

PLease help me i dont know how to think or feel any more and im on lexapro already

Answer 1

Well the good news is that your mom really does love you more than she's letting on these days.
There's probably a lot going on that is causing you to feel this way about your mom, & most of it is completely out of your control. You have every right to your feelings, but you may be seeing things through a distorted filter right now.
The most telling thing comes from your last sentence in the details you gave. You said you feel unimportant, even with your Bf, & he treats you like a princess.
So ask yourself if that would be true with your mom as well. What if she gave you all of the attention in the world right now? Would that satisfy you, or would you still see a dark side to everything?
Now having said that I don't believe that you should just go quietly into the night. You have to keep talking to your mom about this, & letting her know how you feel.
The most important thing that needs to happen with you & your mom right now is proper communication.
You need to tell your mom how you feel, by using words that describe your feelings, & only in that way.
Don't say "You treat me different" say, "I feel lost & ignored" (just an example). Don't say "You don't listen to me" say "I don't feel like I'm being heard" Use the feeling words that you used in your question (empty, lonely, alone, scared). By expressing yourself this way you are keeping the topic about yourself. When you say "You don't listen to me" you make the topic about the other person. It's easier for them to disagree with you if you keep the discussion about them. If you talk about yourself, & your true feelings then they can't dispute that, because it's honest.

Finally, you need to know that your mom has heard you. After you have expressed your feelings to her, get her to mirror back what you said. If she gets some of it wrong, then re-state your point until you are satisfied that she truly gets it.
Be ready to listen to what SHE has to say to you once you are done. But I am sure that when you hear your mom really understands what you are saying, you will feel a whole lot better.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

Whtaever the situation is, she is your Mom. Do not feel bad when U are being treated that way by your mom. Actually she loves U very much and she knows U are very independant. That is why she is always do not support U. Whereas with other siblings, your mom will support and pampered them. Belief me, your mom needs U more than other siblings, except she do not want to show it to U. A day will come, she will need your help and ask for your opinion.Don't feel bad about the whole things. A mother is always a mother. Let her make her choice who she likes and who she don't. As a child, we should respect our parents and take care of them. Don't hurt their feeling regardless what they do to us. Think of it. Without our parents, we will never be born into this wonderful world. Be grateful and treat your parents well.

Answer 3

Honey, i suggest that you write dear ole mom a letter. Tell her how lost you feel and how empty. Tell her everything that is on your mind. she may not listen to you when you talk but when she reads it she will be thinking about what you wrote and soon start asking you questions about what you meant. This is one way that she can't ignore you. If that doesn't work then try talking to your dad about it or an aunt or someone who can talk to your mom about it and get it straightened out. good luck

Answer 4

i've been there. still am at times. every time i get down i always go somewhere, like a drive n stand on a cliff n feel the power thats around us. write ur feelings down, poems, diary, however. it helps. always remember that u r in control of ur destiny n life. doesnt matter what happens around u, u've got urself. stand strong knowing that u'll survive no matter what. even if it is lonely, good things are always around the corner.

Answer 5

Something Specially
For You

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 6

stop being a cry baby; 1st;
all you have to do is read ur own letter an you can solve ur own problems; STOP talking to ur mother an talk to ur brother/sister
only; keep low an when ur mom is getting ready to do something like go to the mall; HIDE IN THE TRUNK OF HER CAR; if she sees you in the trunk refusse to get out;what she is trying too do is get you ready for life ;you think you are right but she is sick- tired of hearing you B-ouch all the time ;get a b/frend she hates bet she will pay more attenion to you then ; she would not want her daughter going out with a looser ;an again maybe you all ready have a looser b/frend thats why you have to ride in the trunk ;good luck

Answer 7

You need to get some professional help, as it sounds like you are not perceiving things very clearly right now. Please talk to a counselor at school or ask your mom if you can go see a therapist. I have clinical depression and have thought exactly as you do. It's the same as having any other disease like diabetes or cancer. Please go get help.

Answer 8

that sucks ass, im srry to hear that. um why dont u try having an agreement to move to somebody elses house. or have a heart to heart talk with her ask her about how she feels towards you and try to find everythign about her past that has to do with you and draw ur own conclusions.