I met this beautiful girl about a year back during my senior year of high school. We were just friends then, but towards the end of the year we both admitted we both like each other. And we started going out. But neither of our parents liked the other. Her parents didn’t like me because I was Indian and mine didn’t like her because she was Puerto Rican. But we went out anyway. Even when I was about 300 miles away, I only got to see her once a month. But we were still together. We were together for about 4 months and now we broke up. I really love her. And I miss her as each day goes by the feeling gets worse and worse. I really believe I’ll get her back one day. I am really hopeful. But then a tiny part of me says I won’t. And I don’t want to believe that. I want to remain hopeful because I really love her. What should I do? Should I stay and wait for her or should I move on? Would I get her back?
2006-11-04 18:17:28 · 7 answers · asked by Avatar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-04 18:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by guRl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't spend your life waiting for someone you don't even know will come running back to you. She is not being fair to you if she makes you wait to be with her. And what if she comes back will you accept her with open arms?
You're only a little over 17 and it was only a 4 month relationship how are you so sure you're in love with this girl or if she's such the person you want to be with because atm she doesn't want to be with you if you're not together.
She's not sure whether or not you the person for her. And even though she'd like to be sure its not possible at this age and at this time.
If I were in your position I'd wait too. But should you? Do you want to be waiting for a long time? What if she's just out having fun and you are just waiting for her?
Getting her back? If you're the person for her than of course you'll get her back. But you shouldn't waste you're time not having fun and just waiting.
And the distance between you too is alot you two barely get to see each other and its alot to demand for someone who is unsure. 300 miles away... 4 hour drive - 5 hour drive every month but only once? And on top of that both of eachother parents don't agree? I assume its hard to see eachother and can barely spend time together...
You can't depend on her to tell you want to do. You yourself need to follow your heart or mind to where ever you want to be. You could have fun even if you want her badly however do you need her? And does she think she needs you? Its your decision to stay and wait but don't stay waiting forever...
2006-11-04 18:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by celestina7706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure how old you guys are, but if you want to be with her and she feels the same way, have patience! :)
Things do change with time and circumstance, and once you graduate or what-not, perhaps you can move closer to each other. You never know what the future can bring you, just be honest with each other,
and of course you always can move on....but
Let her know how you feel! good luck. Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain, and as young as you are, it may be best to move on. Some of your question's answers lie with her, you have to ask her! At your age sometimes it may be best to move on, but she will always be in your heart I'm sure! :)
Your parents definitly have their reasons as to why they feel the way they feel, but you ultimately make your decisions, and personally, I feel they are being racist. That may come with cultuer and the way they were raised. Whatever the outcome be glad that you had the opportunity to love another person like that!
2006-11-04 18:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get yours your hopes up. I know that has already happen but live life as it is handed to you and keep pressing through. You are young and have your whole life together. Don't wait for something that you are not sure of and I;m saying this from experience love is precious and you will find that ONE someday be hopeful and keep a good outlook everything will be ok.
2006-11-04 18:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my guy broke up. It was the dumbest thing we could have done.
And somehow, after a few months, we made it back into each others arms.
Right where we should be!
If it's meant to be, it will work out.
And I know the horrible feeling. Uggg. Do I ever!
I hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-04 18:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Missterious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on guy. The distance apart has taken its toll. Family stress would've split ya'll apart anyway. You both come from very strong, very different, family related backgrounds. You may still love her, but that will fade. Just be glad that you knew her.
2006-11-04 18:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, it's over and done with. The reason it hurts more each day is you are obsessing and have not filled that void yet.
Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.
2006-11-04 18:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋