"If I got locked up and sentenced to a quarter century,
how would you be there to support me mentally??" P.s. he really is locked up & in jail ;[
2006-11-04 18:15:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
25yrs is a long time, even most marriages don't last that long, I think he is just playing you mentally. True, you probably love him, but you have to think about yourself also. There is no sense in letting two lives be completely ruined. I can't tell you what to do.but,you also have a life
2006-11-04 18:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may tell him yes as of this moment. But I tell ya time will change everything. You can only be there for him mentally for so long. But 25 yrs is along time to ask of you to wait for him. If he love you he would let go of you the day he went in jail. I dated someone who was lock up for 5 yrs. I stick by him for 5 yrs. I visited him once to twice a wk. He calls couple times awk. I thought once he get release we would be together forever. I was wrong! He changed competely. He kept saying he's not good enough for me. He started to act like a jerk. He was such a stranger.....someone who acted so different that I hardly knew anymore. He was the love of my life and I've given my dedication and things still didn't work out. As for you I hope you have better luck than me. Even if you waited for him 25 yrs there's still no guarantee that you & him will be together forever. 25 yrs is alot to waste on someone whom you are not sure of. Things change and so does people
2006-11-05 02:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should ask him the same question, but how would he be there to support YOU mentally, physically and emotionally. if he is in jail, i assume he is guilty, so he chose to do what he did and so is suffering the consequences. if he is choosing that way of life, then he is choosing a life without seeing you and i think that it's you who should be asking those questions. sorry if i am completely wrong here.
2006-11-05 02:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Katya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u will be there a while, until the distance will tare u apart! maybe ull move on sooner or later, but i guess u could still be there for him, mentally as his friend!
like somebody else said, mail, visits, phonecalls
2006-11-05 02:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by linuca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to be in there for 25 years, you might just have to let him go. You can't stop your life cause he's in jail now, you gotta keep moving. You should just move on. It sucks, but it sucks that he got himself in jail too.
2006-11-05 02:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth, but also ask him the same thing. you shouldn't be the one who has to put all the effort in to the relationship. after all, youre not the one who got your butt thrown in the slammer, he is. if you decide to end things with him, dont let him try to make you feel guilty. he got himself put in that situation and its not fair for you to have to pay some of the consequences as well.
2006-11-05 02:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by blessbtbam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do U love him? If U do, then, there is nothing U could do, except to wait for him to be released.Otherwise, look for another bf for a better and secured future.
2006-11-05 02:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some contact with the outside world is better that nothing.
he put him self there. he should be home with you , not screwing around doing dum sh#t
2006-11-05 02:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by MASQUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably mail, phonecalls and visits
2006-11-05 02:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by mc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋