Who's ready and who's not? Is it me or him?

Question

Here's the low-down.I have been unemployed for about a year, and within this year i HAVE been looking for jobs extensively, but nothing came through. So I decided that I would go to school to get my GED. I'm promised a good paying job when im done. My "boyfriend" has been at the same job for 4 years, and steady. No kids. We live with his mother, (he was here when I moved in, and he lied about it), and we've never had OUR OWN place. Really he has never, I always did. Now here comes the problem. We want to move, well I do anyways. He feels that i should work AND go to school, so WE can save money to move, while hes just working. Mind u he spends alot of money on scratch-offs and lottery tickets instead of saving it for us to move. I feel he's not wanting to step up and be the "man of the relationship", and putting ALL the hard work in my lap, so he can sit behind it and enjoy the "free" ride. He feels like i should do 1&2 and he just does 1. What should happen? I really need help!

I did talk to him about it a few times, but he acts like a lil kid, "I don't wanna talk about it i do what i wanna do wit my money" bullcrap. I told him that "idt" its fair that he can just stand still while i move ahead. We haven't been nowhere together since April, I bust my @ss all day to make sure he's okay and comfy, cause i know i'm not workin right now, but all i say is he upgrade to a better paying job to support both of us and his habits, while i go to school, and when (if) we relocate, i can finish school, have a stable job thats alot and we both pay bills and have extra left. he's the one all "i wanna make the "rs" work," but i dont see him putting forward as much effort as I am. Am I being selfish, or is he not in reality? P.S. We argue alot, and and his mom gets involved ALOT... She agrees with him ALWAYS. So he feels hes ALWAYS right.

Answer 1

Its great that you are going to get ur GED,and it won't be a bad idea to work as well so you have money of ur own too but I personally think ur man should step up and BE a man. Becos later on hes going to expect you to be the bread winner. If he isn't showing responsibility now...how sure are you that he'll show it in future Lottery tickets?!!! thats not the way forward...theres no food for a lazy man.

My advice is straighten this issue out now or u'll have urself to blame for whatever happens later on. Good luck

Answer 2

I think that while your guy should not be spending too much $ on lottery tickets and scratch offs, he does have the right idea about not moving out just yet.

You are fortunate to be able to go back to school while living with his mother. After you have saved some money of your own from your job, then you can consider moving. By that time you may see many aspects of your life differently.

Good luck

Answer 3

if u feel that way seriously than why u wastin ur time with him.........but saving money does not sound like a bad idea. You have to decide what right for u and make the steps to get ur life in order with or without a man

Answer 4

Did u tell him how u feel?

Answer 5

BOTH not ready