When I kiss her on the first "date" (its not really a date, but hanging out) does she understand that thats all it is,--- a kiss?! nothing more? or does she start expecting that weve got something going? What if you had a bit to drink and you just felt like it? I dont know, i always end up going home with "her" on the first date... knowing well ahead that I just want to get to know her.. and take some time before doing anything. Can you date, and just kiss or touch? and worry about being a couple later? What do you think? thanks....
2006-11-04 18:06:38 · 9 answers · asked by Dustin m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You send a mixed message if you go home with her on the first date.
If you want her to understand that it's just a kiss and nothing more, give her a peck on the cheek at the end of the first date, tell her you enjoyed the evening, and go home. Get to know her by asking her out again, not rushing into the physical stuff right away.
2006-11-04 18:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one, my friend.... If you are just looking for a one-nighter, then don't go after a friend. You will never sleep with someone without someone, eventually, somewhere, coming to hate you for it. It might be the girl (once you move on), or her friend (who doesn't think you're worth the while), or your friend (who wanted the girl for himself), or your other friend (who liked the girl and didn't want to see her get hurt once you move on) or.... It could be anyone, but make no mistake, it will always happen. Given the question, I'm going to guess that you are a college freshman. Have fun out there, but remember that you're going to be around these people for a long time, and good friends are irreplacable. A quick hook up is much more easily found, and is certainly not worth losing a friend over.... Just $.02 from a married guy...
2016-05-22 00:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls with your mindset will probably just think of a kiss as just a kiss. but realistically, most girls and women have romantic notions; that a kiss means this guy has some feelings for her.
but then again, there could be that romantic atmosphere. most of the time, not many girls would have gone through dates that ended up with kisses that dont matter. so usually, it would matter to the girl. you should make it clear after the date so as not to complicate things.
"i just want you to know the kiss the other night was well... unplanned.." or something like that.
cheers!
2006-11-04 18:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you kiss a girl, she will generally think you like her enough to kiss her and probably want to start a process of dating or "hanging out" . I can see how guys end up with the title of player by your question., If you want to just get to know her with out doing "anything" be up front with her and I think you may find she is impressed not only with your honesty, but by the fact that you want to get to know her before you go further.
2006-11-04 18:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A kiss is NOT just a kiss for most women or girls!!! It's the beginning of something more!!! Next time don't just kiss a girl on your first date or "hanging out"!!! Unless you're 100% sure what you want or how you feel about a girl, don't do anything to mislead her.
2006-11-04 18:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by claire d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been out with a great guy 3 times and i'm dying for him to kiss me! however, i want more with him--as in a relationship. i think it depends on the woman if she will want/expect more or not. i would hope though that when this guy finally does kiss me it will be because he wants something more.
2006-11-04 18:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you're not ready for a committed relationship that should be discussed in the beginning then you both won't be so confused. she'll know ya'll are just hangin out and you'll know that it's ok with her. but if it's not ok with her and she really wants more then just friends with "benifits" then be honest and go to the next girl.i personally would rather a guy mature enough to tell me that he's not ready for a relationship from the beginning that why my feelings won't be hurt more then they have to be.
2006-11-04 18:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by musikluver83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone kiss or touch me, most likly i feel that he likes me. and wanted to continue to further the relationships to being with me as a couple. so.. if you dont like the person, then dont lead them to misunderstand. body lauguage usually tells alot more. gd luck.
2006-11-04 18:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Princess is here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to control your drinking.
2006-11-04 18:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋