he is a dckhead and i want her 2 leave him but she wont...i dont understand y she wants 2 put me thru hell every fcking day...all i do is get yelled at for nothing...and my dad talks crap about me and my mom 2 otha peeps idk what 2 do...should i just have myself sent away becuz i cant take it much more or should i just run away or stay and take it?
2006-11-04 17:55:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thats really messed up. sit your mom down and force her to listen. don't yell, just speak calmly. or write her a letter. write everything you want to tell her and then give it to her, so she can read all of your frustrations without being able to interrupt you. put off on running away though, sometimes that doesnt put you in a better place.
2006-11-04 17:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Katrina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try putting the shoe on the other foot. Go see your Guidance Counselor at school and tell them this story just as you told it here. Tell them the stress and pressure your parents are putting on you in school is too much for you to bear and ask them what can be done about it. Then your parents will be the ones called into the school against their will to explain their actions. School employees are mandated reporters and that means if they feel your parents are endangering you (stressing you to the point of doing something stupid such as running away or attempting suicide) then they have to report it to social services. Social services then would intrude upon your family life to the point where you will be the least stressed person in the home! Your parents will be the ones explaining their actions, not you. The other side of that coin is you will likely end up in mandated family counseling, which isn't fun for anyone in the family. So, is it truly bad enough to go through all of that or do you think you can sit down with your parents and tell them you feel their expectations are too high for you at this point and that you are trying your best and their constant criticism is only making matters worse. Remind them that you are not on drugs, drinking alcohol, sneaking out and running the streets all night, pregnant or having unsafe sex. And that at your age when all of that is the norm, perhaps they could count themselves lucky with an occasional C. Now, if you are engaging in any or all of those dangerous behaviors, give your parents a break, because they love you and want the best for you and are trying to get you through your teens alive and with a bright future ahead of you. So, it seems you have to decide how bad it really is, then decide if trying to work it out through talking with your parents is worth a try. If you don't think talking to them will help - go to the school counselor. Good luck.
2016-05-22 00:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to see where the problem really is. Is it with him? Or is it because of you? There are two ways to look at this. Maybe he is being a jerk and being mean to you, but maybe you have problems as well. From your question, you seem very angry and hateful. And selfish,when you talk about wanting your Mom to leave your Dad or wanting to run away, plain selfish. Just because you don't like your dad doesn't mean your mom has to leave him. You need to talk to a counselor at school if it's that bad, and get someone to sort out what is going on. Maybe he is mean, but maybe he is that way because of you. Just because your Mom doesn't want to leave your dad, the man she married, doesn't mean she wants to put you through hell. You need to grow up a bit, watch your language, learn how to spell, and stop making everything about you. Running away solves nothing, and a lot of kids who do, end up getting in trouble on the street, killed, or missing. Most come back home. Stay home, don't run away and work out your problem.
2006-11-04 18:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK look I'm not sure how old you are but life does get better. i grew up in a very violent home and feared for my life everyday and times i didn't know if i was going to make it but your mom needs to make that decision for herself you cant push her to do something that she doesn't want to do. you don't deserve to be treated like that and if you are in danger call someone there are people to help but always remember every thing you go through makes you a stronger person and you will never had anything put on you that you personally cant handle so keep pressing on and you will come out on top. I'm not saying that it is easy but life is worth living and never let anyone make you think different
2006-11-04 18:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
This sounds like a really crappy, terrible situation. This most important thing for you is to get SAFE, no matter what. There are distress centres to call on for kids of any age...(adults too) who feel like they are threatened, or who just need to talk to someone who won't judge you. They can help you, talk to you, or even meet with you to discuss what your options are. You don't ever have to give them your name or number unless you want to. Running away is hardly ever an answer, especially if your under-age or not working. I would certaining try Kids Help phone or a neighbourhood distress centre first.
2006-11-04 18:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by soccershotz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you are talking about. Almost sounds like me. Sorry I can't be much of a help. I just happened to see you question and it reminded me of myself.
My dad is a jerk too and my mom will not listen.
2006-11-04 18:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥LostHeart♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your mother should be lonely and without the man she loves just because you don't like him huh?See this is why kids should learn to stay in there place.Your the one who doesn't like him,have you tried to fix the problems between you and your dad?Or are you just making things even harder?Who's building up the wall between you and your father?
2006-11-04 18:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that you are doing something that he has a reason to resent? I'd say, try talking to him in a respectful way. If he won't listen, then you have the right to report him for is abusive ways.
2006-11-04 17:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to a counselor of some sort. Then you can take your mom in with you, and she will probably realize how bad of an influence your dad is.
2006-11-04 17:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by pirategirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unlis he is beatting you you can't call the cops and she probably won't leave him because she probably loves him and you know alot of pepole get yelled at for nothing it's called life deal with it.
2006-11-04 20:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋