2006-11-04 17:41:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
26 - 33.
Personally, I wouldn't recommend anyone having a child until they've been married for a minimum of 4 or 5 years. Because you can really no longer just be a couple first once a child comes along. You are always Mom/dad first, a spouse second, and just "you" last. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it's nice to be a couple & focus on your marriage for a little while first.
2006-11-04 17:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Girl named Sue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. Things in your life dont have to be "perfect" but you do need to have the capacity to be selfless and put the needs of someone else constantly above your own. its also best for the child if the parents are in a loving relationship. Other than those things, just having a child will kick your life into gear and you will become ready (assuming you are a somewhat reasonable human being and not a complete moron like some parents)
Age 19 was a great time for me. My husband was 20. We didnt think we were ready, but suddenly, when that HPT read "positive" we were more ready than we knew. We had no particular direction after highschool, and were having a hard time knowing where to go. Our daughter really put things into perspective and taught us what we needed to be doing. They say being a parent is hard, and yeah, in comparison to living for only yourself, it is hard. But the immense joy you feel totally overshadows any difficulties.
The basic fact is... age has no bearing on parental capabilities and resonsibilty. There are 40 years olds that arent mature enough to be parents and 18 year olds that are more than mature enough. There are some people who should NEVER have children. The simple fact that you associate age, with being ready to have a child, makes me think that most likely, you still have a bit of growing up to do before you are responsible for a whole other life. best of luck, and God bless.
2006-11-05 01:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a best age but I wouldn't do it as a teenager, nor put it off too long.
Basically whenever you are in a stable marriage is a great time to start a family.
I had my first baby at 24 and that was a good age for me, but far more important was that I was married to a good man- whenever that happens is a good time to start a family.
2006-11-05 10:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that that all depends on the women. And the man too for that matter!
I was 20 when I got pregnant and I wish I would have waited another year or two... I do not regret having my son so dont get me wrong.
I think alot of it has to do with what you can handle and if you are mature enough or if you could even support yourself!
I see alot of young girls having babies at the age of 14-17 and I just think that is crazy!
I would say that early -mid 20's would be a good age to have kids because personally I want to beable to keep up with them as they grow.
My husbands mother is in her 50's and hes only 20! She had him in her 30's and then had another kid after him....She has alot of health problems and is always on medications and doped up and whatever else... I just wouldnt want to be like that.
There ate so many different perspectives... thats just mine...
2006-11-05 02:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by greygirl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very subjective question.
there are so many variables that you are the only one who can fill in the equation.
the first thing that you need to understand that once you have kids, the way you live your life change a lot. you are no longer free to do whatever you want to. now, someone is dependent on you, and they are there for the rest of your life.
here are some questions to answer:
1. are you ready to push aside whatever you have plan to do and did not get to do it?
2. can you support a child.
3. do you plan to have a carrier - what is the meaning that you cannot work for few months?
4. if your spouse ready?
5. how many kids you would like to have, the more you would like, the earlier you need to start.
6. having kids in older age is much much harder physically
the bottom line is that no one can answer this question for you.
2006-11-05 01:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Q'Aminator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a best age? I don't think so, I think it is more a matter of preference. You probably don't want to wait until you are 40 due to the increase in risks of being pregnant, but even then it's not exactly a bad time. Personally, I would say somewhere between 23 and 26.
2006-11-05 01:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no best age. When you and your partner are ready. 20-35 both for the man and the woman is probably a very optimal range for the health of the baby Blessings!
2006-11-05 01:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 and about to have a baby. It wasnt planned. So when we discovered we were pregnant we talked everything through and realised we can do this. It makes alot of difference if you are doing it alone or not. If i didnt have my man i would've definatly thought things through a million times and may not even be having it. You dont know until your in that situatuation. Good luck.
2006-11-05 04:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by foxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person and situation. I was 18 when i got preggo 4 months after i got married it was a surprise, but anyways 7 years later i wouldn't change a thing he's taught me more about life and i grew up fast.
2006-11-05 02:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no best age to have a baby you should base the decision to have a baby on whether or not your ready to handle the responsibility
2006-11-05 02:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by ikinkaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋