I really want to break up with my boyfriend, but i don't know how. I don't love him anymore. i've never been in such a serious relationship before. HELP!!!
2006-11-04 17:36:32 · 15 answers · asked by Samantha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do it!!! I know how hard it is believe me I was there! The same exact thing. You need to think about what you are doing, it's not fair to him. tell him you just don't love him anymore and don't take no or crying or anything for an answer. Tell him you are sorry to hurt him, but it is also not fair to you. I think you atleast owe it to him to do it in person, but if yours is anything like mine was - he drove to my house when I did it over the phone!!! And made me feel so bad in person I couldn't after I had said it and he cried so bad. I know it sounds awful, but you may have to be blatant and mean with it, if he doesn't want to accept it.
Trust me, I was in the same position, and I felt so bad after the way he cried and looked I stayed, and I tried to break up with him about 3 times. Know what happened? I wound up continuing to sleep with him out of pitty, because I knew he loved me and it was what he wanted. Guess what? We concieved a child. I finally had to leave the state on "vacation" and never go back to get him to accept it!! We now have joint custody of our son, and he sees his father 3 months a yr. per an agreement we came up with together, not the courts.
So do it now, however you have to do it. Just get it done. I don't regret having my son, but I wish I would have had him under more optimal circumstances, and been able to have stayed with his father.
2006-11-04 17:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah! i'm in the same situation as you! i probably can't give you the best advice since i'm in the same boat. but this is what i've been told to do... stand your ground. it's so hard when a relationship is all you've known for such a long time. its so much easier to give in to him and stay in the relationship because its hard to tell yourself to start a new life and meet new people, especially when you know you love that person still but you're far from being in love with them anymore. but the things is, it's not fair to him if you're only with him cuz you don't wanna hurt him. do something for yourself. be free and happy. and hopefully i can take the same advice.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-05 01:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by manda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, to both him and yourself. Just do it, as nicely as possible. Say your relationship has gotten too serious, and you need to break it off and be by yourself. Don't let him think there is a chance of getting back together if you really hate him. Breaking up is always hard to do, but its better that you don't waste either of your time on a relationship that is going nowhere. If you think he could get violent, make sure you are in a public place, or that a friend isn't far a way. good luck!
2006-11-05 01:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it..and do it in person not in a letter or texting him or IM do it in person adn fast he's going to be hurt but it's better to do it now then in months when you are so hateful towards him..do it now wehre there is a chance that u can still be friends..just tell him that you just don't have feelings for him anymore and u are not happy in the relationship and if he loves you at all he will jsut let you go...But tell him taht you want to try to be friends with him..
gotta do and fast hun
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-05 01:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing him any favours by not being honest with him. You are just afraid that you will be labeled as "the bad guy" here by (a) breaking up with him, & (b) stating that you don't love him.
I don't think it's necessary to tell him that you hate him, but you must tell him that it's over, that's for sure.
This is one of the risks we take when we take on a relationship with someone. Feelings are going to be hurt, & someone is going to walk away with a strong feeling of dissatisfaction. It happens, & then we move on.
2006-11-05 01:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful what you wish for. Just be honest, if you're sure this is what you want. You give no reason for wanting it except not loving him anymore. If you mean you just aren't feeling the same way, it sounds like the relationship isn't serious, like you are claiming it is.
2006-11-05 01:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mess with a guys emotions. Because believe it or not, they have them. Just sit with him, and talk, then break it to him slowly. It's the only way. ust be gentle, and let him know why, and whether or not you still want to be friends. And tell him ths, "You can't ever regret something that once made you happy." I tell myself that all time when I think of Jane, My one, and only Love.
2006-11-05 01:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jeru_Salem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the point where you cannot be nice about it. You have to make a clean break, and it is going to be very painful for him. Tell him that you dont love him, that your done with him. And dont justify yourself to him because you are not obligated to. This is cruel, but it needs to be done. Im sorry things are not working out for you
2006-11-05 01:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by //// 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD ARE YOU ???? ya got ta just do it,,, at some point in time you had to know things are going to far,,,, you just don't hate for no reason,,,, when the feelings aren't there you need to determine what went wrong and try to learn from those mistakes
2006-11-05 01:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to hit the road get your self under control
2006-11-05 01:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by mammawinks03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋