everything for me. in the beginning i didnt know he was married until after the **** hit the fan. i really dont know how to tell him that he needs to stick with his wife for the kids sake. what do i do?
2006-11-04 17:29:05 · 14 answers · asked by ody_1j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is this kind of person, who has lied to you to get you into bed, who is lying to his wife, and who is creating a miserable example and future for his children someone you want to even associate yourself with? You ARE the company you keep. If it were me, I wouldn't even talk to him again and find some people with integrity to hang out with.
2006-11-04 17:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wither you tell him he needs to stay with his wife for his kids sake or not, he did start a relationship with you under false pretense. If he was an honorable man, he would have ended the relationship before starting one up with you. If you do have a relationship with him, there is nothing to keep him from following his old patterns and and start a relationship with someone else, leaving you high and dry. Just be straight with him. That was what you deserved and didn't get.
A kid growing up in a bad marriage with the parents at each other's throats is worse than a kid growing up with a single parents and less drama. Sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids is the worse thing you can do. They grow up to emulate the relationships their parents have.
Regardless of what he says he will do or wither or not you care for him, until he can get out of his current relationship, he should not have a relationship with you.
2006-11-05 01:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow yourself to be a homewrecker or enable him to be a sorry excuse for a man. He has a wife and an baby on the way which means he needs to face up to his responsibilities. You should leave him. If he laves his pregnant life chances are very high that he'll leave you too. You may not think it now but neither did his wife. Think about it. And don't worry about his happiness, He's obviously not man enough to care about his wife or childs happiness.
My advise...dump him and find someone who is single.
2006-11-05 01:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him and tell him to sort out his problems with his wife before he starts anything eles with other people. And you need to be more careful of who you are with. There are a lot of married men out there that a jerks try to find a nice guy ok.
2006-11-05 01:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Diane T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you really can do is sit him down and tell him. Don't do it over the phone or online. Sit down face to face in person and let him know your feelings on the situation. He'll in the end have to make a decision on his own, but if you don't want to be with him be sure to let him know that so he doesn't have a sense of false hope to be with you.
2006-11-05 01:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Angela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you should do:
1) Look deeply into his eyes.
2) Open mouth.
3) Say, "You are a lying, cheating SOB and I don't want to ever hear from you again."
4) Turn around and walk away.
2006-11-05 01:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way is a clean & simple break.
You are absolutely right about where he needs to be.
But the only thing that you have control over is where you are, not him. So what you do is go & be where YOU need to be.
2006-11-05 01:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not see someone who cheats on his pregnant wife and doesn't face his responsibilities and then never speak to him again.
2006-11-05 01:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by punstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a turd. Messing around on his poor pregnant wife...
Goes to show you that he can't be trusted or depended on. Tell him you don't want anything to do with him.
2006-11-05 01:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well now that you do know , do the right thing for his family and walk away like a decent woman would.
2006-11-05 01:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋