Have you ever found yourself looking for the things that caused you to break up with an ex, to happen in your new relationship? If you see these things starting to happen in your new relationship, is that a justifiable reason to end things...because you don't want to have to go through it all over again?
2006-11-04 17:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, I think that everyone does. The key is to follow the Golden Rules:
1. Always be the best you can
2. Treat others like you would want to be treated.
3. Be honest with you self and others
Basically, if you know what signs to look for, don't avoid them. Instead face them head on! You will feel better about the potential issue and develop ways to resolve them together with your partner.
If you like a person but continue to run from signs you will unfortunately be running forever and never really get to know anybody! Do you feel me?
Good luck
2006-11-04 17:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by nikc_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different. I know that many follow the same patterns, and go through different phases. I guess my answer would be if the problems that were in your first relationship where abusive in nature then yes Id be careful.
But if they are things like personality differences, or growing pains then these can be made better with talking them out or mabey counseling. If you love this person and they love you then together you can work these things out. Of course they have to know that there are things bothering you...no one is a mind reader.
2006-11-05 01:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by luvyureyze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yees I have found myself doing that. I do believe that it is a justifiable reason to end things because there are ALWAYS warning signs to a huge problem. My advice is don't ever ignore the warning signs!! If you can talk to this person about the things that you are already starting to see and they acknowledge it then that's fine but just keep everything in your "storage bank" and continue to chill with them by keeping them at arms length and date other people in the meantime!
2006-11-05 01:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by KieraSimone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but don't get into a relationship just after you end one,give yourself a little time a month or so to get over the hurt,then gradually start back to date.
2006-11-05 01:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by K L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I do not do the things to my current boyfriend that i did to my ex. I learned my lesson. and me and my ex barely talked about my feelings. I found out communication is key! and its been great with my current bf, we tell each other exactly what we feel.
2006-11-05 01:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look for those things, but not to break up. I look for them to fix them in time and NOT break up.
2006-11-05 01:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try 2 work things out
2006-11-05 01:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are called excuses.
To break up.
2006-11-05 01:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is definately wise to learn from your mistakes
2006-11-05 01:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by //// 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-11-05 01:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋