Oklahoma or Be Alone?

Question

Okay it's like this we've been together for almost six wonderful months. During the fifth month he's been working is butt off working two jobs. I rarely heard from him. But I know he wasn't cheating all he was doing was work, work, and more work.

Anyway, I finally got a chance to talk to him and asked him if was avoiding me. He said no at first and then he said yes because he was offered a permanent job in Oklahoma. I emotional, but I don't think he knew, or he did but was holding back. He said that he talked to his family and friends and they said he should go.

But the only thing that stopping him is "me." He said leaving me here would be the hardest thing to do because I bring joy into his life and he didn't want to hurt me. I told him that he should take it because it's a once in a lifetime opportunity. (Holding back my tears.) He got unitl the first of the year to make his final decision.

Answer 1

I'm thinking he brings you happiness as well. I think what you should do is pack all your things, and go to Oklahoma with him. This could be a one in a lifetime opportunity for you as well, so I suggest you take full advantage of it. Good Luck.

Answer 2

With you telling the man that he should go without you, if he truly cares for you, you just hurt him bad. I am sure he knew the decision was on him alone, but your words may have ended you.
For me, if she said that, it tells me she has other plans, or another man someplace and it's a break up excuse.You should think well before you say words like that. He should go to Oklahoma then if at that time it's in the cards and find someone there more suited.

Answer 3

If you want to stay with him, why not start looking for a job in OK also? I mean, you haven't known him for that long, but if you think he's worth it, maybe you should try to go to OK also. Just a thought.

Answer 4

Let him go babe, you could end up being blamed and miserable for ever other wise.

Answer 5

Go with him.