I have a gf, but im also still attracted to other girls. We have a serious relationship but i know i cant take it to the next step until i deal with this issue. I love her but i cant be with her and only her for the rest of my life....what should i do?
2006-11-04 16:46:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To society, yes you are dirty, filthy pig.
BUT, who is society to judge you? It sounds like you're confused and you don't know what you want. If you don't see what's out there and continue sticking with your girlfriend, you're always going to wonder if you missed anything and you might want out when it's too late.
2006-11-04 16:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for guys to be attracted to other girls while they are with their gf. But if you think that it is more serious than just little attractions and are not ready to take your relationship to the next step, try to talk to her nicely, after you give her a present, that you think the relationship is going a little fast for you. Hopefully, she will understand. If she doesn't, then she doesn't know you enough to be with you. I know how much stress this can put on you, and I wish you the best of luck in your relationship. : )
2006-11-05 00:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by xXPrincessXx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, I think you need to tell your girl your feelings exactly as they are! I feel that you may love your girl but your obviously not IN love! As you know if you decide to take the risk of losing your girl to be with other Chic's than you need to make sure that's what you really want and come to the realization that your decisions are life impacting not just for you but for your Girl as well!!
The end result is its not fair to your girl don't invest more time in someone if your heart knows that's not in your plans for your future. Communication AND honesty will help guide you in the right direction good luck!
2006-11-05 01:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you are a pig because it takes alot of guts to realize your situation. I don't understand your question because it seems that you are making it harder on yourself by saying "I love her but i cant be with her and only her for the rest of my life"
You have to decide what you do want for yourself in the future, do you want to be able to grow old with one girl for the rest of your life?
I know that it must be thrilling to have sex with any girl you want but it isn't realistic if you want to be with one girl only in the future. You need to exert some self-control when it comes to other girls or be resigned to never having that special closeness that one gets from monogamy.
At the moment, you are putting the girl you love at serious risk of STDs. You need to decide now whether or not you are going to grow up.
2006-11-05 01:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by julie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think about everyone at one point feels the way you do. I mean it is a big decision to commit to one person and stay faithful. How do you know someone better won't come along into your life right after you decided she is the one for you. Yet, if you love her and can love her with no doubt in your heart ..I mean truely love her than why not commit? Just tell her how you're feeling she could be your best helper...
2006-11-05 00:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a pig, just not a settle-down type of guy. Be honest with her and let her know that you have no intention of being with one person for life.
It may be kinder to cool things off now and gradually break away before she invests much more in this relationship, especially if she plans on getting married someday.
2006-11-05 00:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with her. It sounds like you're close to cheating on her. You should never cheat on someone. She'll be very hurt by the breakup, but she'd be more hurt if you cheated. You're not mature enough for a serious relationship, so don't punish her or yourself. Maybe someday you will be able to be a one girl type of guy, but until then, don't have girlfriends.
2006-11-05 00:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural instinct that you may have trouble dealing with for the rest of your life my friend. Bonding agreements like marriage even further complicant, and directly contradict the urge of a human being to have sex with different people, and to continue to experience new feelings and such.
You are a player for life.
2006-11-05 00:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you are still looking for your true soul mate. I would suggest you talk to her and tell her how you feel. Reassure her that you would still like to date but that you can't have a serious relationship because you are not sure as to what you are looking for. It may upset her but in the long run she will respect you for being honest about it.
2006-11-05 00:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Just Curious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I am a woman, and I am attracted to other girls aswell. But I wont allow my hubby mess around with my g/fs only I can. My friend Jessica has got the best boobs I have ever seen !
2006-11-05 00:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by MamasaidknockUout_1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and do not get married untill you are ready to settle down. Once you marry youhad better not cheat unless you want to get Bobbitised. Rememeber do not keep her waiting to long or she will walk away and you may end up regreting it the rest of your life.
2006-11-05 00:51:10 · answer #11 · answered by rabatvilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋