My boyfriend and I live together. I moved over an hour away from my family and hometown to live with him. So basically I know no one here except him and a few people i work with (like 2).
Tonight, I got done w/work and I called him on my way home. He said "I'm at Jon's house, I will be home in about 20 minutes. Can't wait to see you!"
He got home, 10 minutes later... "I'm going over to Andy's to rollerblade"
Is it wrong for me to expect him to stay home w/me and spend time with me, especially when earlier today he said that he would after I got done w/work. Beacause he knew i was kinda weird about it, and he didn't understand why I was quiet after he told me that.
Serious answers only please! best answer = 10 points.
Thanks in advance!
2006-11-04 16:44:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well men just don't quite function like women. It's hard for them to understand our emotional needs. They're like little kids. Full of energy, jumping from exciting activity to another sometimes they just forget that we exist. Emotional stuff is just not really in their train of thought unless we sit them down and tell them exactly how we feel and tell them what we want and need. After he knows exactly what we want then he has no excuse for ignoring our needs. We fullfill their physical needs they should do so for our emotional ones.
2006-11-04 16:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you're upset if he said he'd stay home with you tonight. You made a sacrifice to move to a new place, and at least for a little while, he should invite you with him so you can start to meet new people. Just tell him why you're upset. Don't yell, don't scream, but be honest and let him know how you feel. Guys don't understand how you feel unless you tell them. Trust me.
2006-11-05 00:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong but why didn't he take you with him? He should know you're feeling alone & alittle left out so if he takes that seriously & wants guy time he should introduce you to his friends girlfriends or wives. after a while you'll feel more comfortable in your new home & that way you can start to have girl time too
2006-11-05 00:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention if you moved to his home-town, where he has developed lots of friendships,...... but I'm guessing he's lived in this town longer than you.
Develop more friendships of your own - couples can't be together EVERY minute, that just makes them get crazy for somebody else's conversation..... or more!
Meet people, get involved in the community and you'll make yourself a more interesting person, for him and yourself.
2006-11-05 00:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have a right to be angry. Try explaining your feelings to him and ask him to stay home with you more often or to take you out with him. If he doesn't come around, go out by yourself and start meeting people. Join some clubs or go to a local bar. Good luck and take care.
2006-11-05 00:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q. "Is it wrong for me to expect him to stay home w/me and spend time with me, especially when earlier today he said that he would after I got done w/work?"
A. Yes, it's wrong, because you are not married. At least, that's how he probably looks at it. You can't expect a "committed" relationship if no one is committed. You take what you get.
2006-11-05 00:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should just talk to him and explain the situation. Tell him that you made a sacrifice to be with him and you would like him to respect that. Maybe you could have him try and set it up where you hang out with his friends, that way you meet new people and your with him but he's still with his friends. or if it gets really bad have him set up like every saterday is "guy's" night and every sunday is "date" night kinda thing.
2006-11-05 00:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by R-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He know you don't know anyone ther ehe should be with you and help you make some friends. He should be spend time with you to build your two relationship. And since he said he would he should be in trouble with you take charge and tell him you want to spend more time with him. Don't let him take cahgre of you...completly
2006-11-05 01:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Confused♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, you may have a legitimate complaint. If he does not do this all the time, I think you should not make a fuss over it. We men need our cave time(sometimes with the other guys). If he does this regularly, you are right to be concerned.
Why do you guys not get married?
2006-11-05 00:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honestly very you have a reason to get mad like he really should be home spending time with you especially after you made all this trouble to come down and live him the least he could do is spend time with you jeez.......
2006-11-05 00:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋