intelligence? i would know...so why don't they? should we call it on them? and say..'wow! that was abuse"...or "I can't believe you are being so rude to her"...is that alright...or should i just shut my mouth? what to do???
2006-11-04 16:35:06 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
People like this fall into 2 categories: 1) those who don't care and 2) those who don't realize. I know both kinds. For those who fall into category #1, I either have very little to do with them or know going in what it's going to be like, and just let it roll. For the souls in category #2, I have found that they do appreciate having it pointed out that they are being abrasive. I have a supervisor who is rude and abusive, but she is also a nice person. If you approach the situation or comment in a calm manner, she is receptive and we have noticed a big difference over the last couple of years in her approach and behavior towards all employees.
2006-11-04 16:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tina R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is rude to one person is not necessarily rude to someone else. It is also true, that what one person thinks is offensive, may not be offensive to others.
Abuse is another thing entirely. Being treated in a manner that you think is rude or offensive does not mean that you were abused!
Most of us get our ideas of what is rude or offensive from our parents or the group that we associate with. Because of this we all don't learn the same things.
It is much better to say, "I felt offended when you said/did that.", to let people know what is offensive to you." There is so much "Political Correctness", now. We are told that we shouldn't say certain things so that we don't offend certain types or groups of people. It is impossible to say anything that doesn't offend someone.
Why should we be limited in what we say because of someone else's opinion? How can we solve any problems or even have a democracy if we are limited to what we can talk about?
2006-11-04 17:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people aren't aware of their rudeness because it's a natural action to most. I am the Grandmother of two Autistic grand kids and since their diagnosis, I am very aware people's frequent use of words that are very offensive. It's every day language for them. They call people 'retarded' or 'handicapped' or any other discriptive, abbusive word or word's they can think of. Unless you know someone who is handicapped or has a special need, you don't think a thing of it. That to me this is very sad. I have had a soft spot in my heart for all people who have a special need or mental handicap since I was very young. These people don't have a choice. This is the life that was given them. I would like to think that those who like to pick on one's who can't defend themselves or don't know they are being picked on, will get there's in the after life. They will be judged by God. It's heart breaking to know so many are out there to hurt innocent others. This is a topic that tugs at my heart and I could go on and on.
In answer to your question...I would say something to quiet them up. Say something, whatever your heart feels at that time. To NOT say anything, then you will feel regrets. It sounds to me you are very compasionate. Go with your gut feelings, even if you have to say that you find that kind of talk offensive. You'll find the right words at the time. Please don't sit back and let someone hurt another. Your question is an educational one for many, thank you!
2006-11-04 17:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by LizBeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell people when they are being rude. I started a new job almost a year ago and the office manager was always saying rude and derogatory things about other people. At first I just ignored it, now I call her on it when she does it. I think that has helped her to understand that what she is saying is offensive. She is now very aware of it doesn't say rude things, at least not in front of me anymore.
2006-11-04 16:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can do so without being rude and abusive in the process yourself, then yes go for it. Your chosen words would be good delived with a good tone so you aren't rude too. I might try it myself but I'm not sure I could do it without being a smart aleck and then I'd be abusive also.
2006-11-04 16:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some know and just don't care. Others are so wrapped up in themselves that they are oblivious to the abuse they dish out. Pointing out rudeness to those that don't care won't induce them to change because they don't care. Pointing out rudeness to the self-absorbed merely offends them since you are not looking at life from their point of view.
Try to rise above it and only point out rudeness to those that might change for the better, few though they might be.
2006-11-04 16:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Hums2oldies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who have grown up in an environment where that happens everyday thisnk it is normal. Therefore they dont know any better
2006-11-04 16:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Hard Doodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋