Long story short...had a female friend, 8 years...I was always interested in her for more but she was always with someone so I just ignored those feelings and did what I had to as a friend. Well she left her husband and decided that was the time to tell me that she always knew how I felt about her after, for the first time in our relationship, I had any hope more could happen. She decided to do it on a day of the funeral of a family member of mine to boot. After a few weeks of deliberating, I decided I was done with her for good. Her attitude was not applogetic whatsoever, she figured nothing had changed as far as she was concerned. I did tell her I would be cool but the sum of the whole deal just made it so I couldnt be around her. I also told her to just kill the fantasy but she wouldnt even tell me she never seen me as boyfriend material. Well weeks pass, we arent talking,etc, and she contacts me, now unfortunate is turning to ugly. She feels I think I am too good to be her friend.
2006-11-04 16:32:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
had to repost, was not understood...we never dated, had sex, anything...
2006-11-04 16:33:19 · update #1
Well buddy, i was in a situation like that.....college was the best thing that ever happened to me on that, cause i moved away from her and never saw her again. If she was just your friend and dated a bunch of dudes and knew you liked her...she is NO GOOD...as far as love is concerned.....so you shoul'dve booted that b*tch to the curb long time ago, or made it strickly friendly. But stickin to the plan and hoping is bad...those are false hopes, you can't make anyone love you, and you can't be so friendly that they'll somehow say "hey, he's a sweet guy..let me give him a chance" that's straight up B*LLSH*T my friend, they will never do that, they will always see you as a friend and nothing more. Chase after women who will give you a genuine chance the FIRST time..not after they date someone else....because if they really liked you or wanted you..they would've given you a chance a LOOOOONG time ago. Women a lot of times just don't know what the hell they want, and they don't find out until much later, but by then it's too late because they've either slutted the hell out of themselves, or just been through so much drama that they become high maintenance....you don't want to get involved with that....because if they can't appreciate you for you at that time what the HELL makes them think they can appreciate you now? You ain't too good to be her friend, she wasn't a friend in the first place if she knew you wanted her and she blew it off and never confronted you about her feelings. It's called, can't deal with lovesickness, and that's what she caused with every moment you were with her anyway....so don't feel bad, just move the hell on...find someone who will appreciate you....not someone who'll just lead you on for their own selfish support.
2006-11-04 16:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this happens a lot more often than what we think. The thing is, the two people are on their own. Free to make their own decisions, and choices. If a guy chooses to act like a friend, and doesn't come clean about feeling more for his friend, it's nobodies fault, but his own. If the girl has a feeling he might feel more, she's not his babysitter, he's a big boy. If he can't stand the heat, he needs to get out. Why call the girl a ***** and all, she probably appreciates having the dude around-a real friend. Girls get tired sometimes of having guys around who just wanna have sex, they need male friends too. But males seem to wanna be friends ONLY if sex is at the end of the story. So guys, without seeming so shallow, give a girl a brake! Were only human too, but just in a unique different way! Not trying to be rude either!!
2006-11-05 01:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she has some serious issues. Do you really want someone like that in your life? You CAN let go, if you choose to.
Or you can hang on, and remain in a state of confusion.
Good Luck! ;)
2006-11-05 01:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe her, u r too good 4 her. ignore all the negativity around u and accept d +vity around u! spend time wid ur near n dear 1s n trust me, u'll find some1 btr. belv in time, time heals all, n u need ur own help 2 move on n mv away frm hr.
2006-11-05 01:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by daaruin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pride is hard to swallow.
2006-11-05 00:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋