boyfriend issue help please!!!?

Question

ok well yeah i have a bf and well hes been getting mad at me lately and i dotn even know why.........then yesterday he tells me that its cuz when we have a problem i go and tell my friends and they go and talk to him instead of me adn well yeah i kno i have to talk to him myself and everything but i cant make him understand that my friends are juss tryin to help what do i do??? he also tells me he loves me and i love him too and well he promised me that he would never break up w/me and well sometimes he just doesnt show me that he believes me that im real w/him and i really do love him and care for him so what i can do bout that too? plz help

Answer 1

Id say if your boyfriend doesn't like the fact that your Friends are the ones telling him of your problems then you need to open the communication lines at home and leave your Friends out of the mix!When your in a relationship there is only two people not two people there friends the neighbor the mailman the family and everyone Else just you two!Its obvious that the nosy Friends are causing a problem in your relationship and if its something that you want to save then you need to def work on leaving the friends opinions out! Just because he said he will never break up with you that doesn't mean anything there are plenty of people who stand in a church b4 god and all of their family and Friends and say till death do us part and still end up divorcing 6 months down the road.Communication is a very important part of a relationship and its something you have to work on and constantly work at if you want things to work out there is no such thing as a perfect relationship they are give and take and that is the only way that one can last Both peoples feelings have to be considered hes told you how he feels now the balls in your court Show him that his feeling matter as well.The trust thing a whole other issue trust is earned and well I dont know that youve done anything to make him wonder otherwise but the smallest of things can hurt a persons trust for you and well unfortunatly you have to start over from square one and gain that trust all over again sucks i know Im going through the same thing and it blows but if you love him you do what it takes to make things work and if hes not worth it to ya then theres plenty of other fish in the sea and you move on to something better.. I hope that I was able to help you some I dont know how these things work but if you have access to my page feel free to message me if you need help again

Brightest of Blessings to you
Witchy

Answer 2

Well first of all don't ever have friends talk to him- you want to see it work then you need to just bite it and talk to him yourself. If you have no idea what it is that's wrong maybe you should try to sit down and talk to each other.Having good communication about things like this is a must, sure it might not be much fun but in the long run it does help.Here is another good idea, when you talk don't take it personal and use an I feel statement so the other doesn't feel attacked by you if things start to get a little personal.

Answer 3

I dont know how old you are, but if you MUST tell a friend, then pick one close friend you can confide in and keep the rest of your personal business between you two ok...too many hands in the pot spoils the stew darlin and he is feeling left out and second best if you are talking about personal feelings to other people instead of him...and HE IS the one you should be talking about your personal issues with..he is the love of your heart not them! SO keep the love perspective where it belongs...AT HOME!

Answer 4

Some things are to be private between you and your bf. Problems should be worked out between the two of you and no one else. Its ok to get advice and ideas from your friends, and they probably have good intentions to help you, but its you that is in a relationship with your bf and not them. Out of courtesy your friends should not be saying anything to your bf because its a personal matter between you two.

Answer 5

Your friends are getting on his nerves, talking to him about issues that were between you and him. What do you think you should do? Your friends are NOT just trying to help you; they are also meddling with him. When you tell your friends about him, they are going to think about him in particular and they cannot keep their big mouths shut.

He shouldn't say he would never break up with you though. That raises a red flag. How could he know?

Answer 6

How old are you?i have a twelve year old with that very same problem.may i suggest the two of you sit down no one else and talk..just talk sometimes when there are too many people are involved the problems get bigger and bigger without realising it.instead of telling your friends tell him..good luck

Answer 7

I guess he does not like you telling everybody his and your business- it is a touchy situation- he may be a more private person- and wants you to talk to him about whatever the problem is- and work it out w him- not your friends- D

Answer 8

Excuses

Answer 9

My advise would be to let your friends know that you appreciate their advise, thats why you go to them. But you need to let them know that even though you share things with them it doesnt mean you want them to discuss it with your boyfriend. You have a special bond with them and a special bond with him alone. When you mix it he feels as though he's being ganged up on and no one likes that. Tell your friends to let you know what they think then share it with him in your own words. SMILE!

Answer 10

First of all you need to speak up for yourself. Having your friends talk to him is a big mistake because one day your friend's arm is going to wrapped around his.......Do you hear me? I know it hard to talk to someone because I have the same issue but I'm working on it. But on a serious note if you have problem and you need to talk to someone for advice you can talk to your friends but don't have them speaking up for you.