Are you a Father that has residential custody of your daughter?

Question

If you won custody of your daughter can you please tell me how did you do it...was the mother unfit? What are the chances of winning your daughter when the mother is not unfit, however lives off of welfare and its always looking for a way to cheat the goverment to get free money....! Can you please advice...? Thank you for your opinion or personal experience is greatly appreciated.

Reply to Cathy: The reason why...because the Mother took her to Philadelphia w/o permission(in other words Kidnap) Her mentality on welfare: The goverment steals from us(she doesnt even work so I dont see how the gov. takes from her) so why not take money from the Gov. I dont think thats the right mentality. Is that what she is going to teach her daughter? Live off of welfare and dont work! Another society parasite. As far as you being on welfare, you do what you gotta do at least you WORK! Welfare is just a little help for you! She is not unfit but not teaching the right Values and how to depend on herself and not the Goverment, that and many many many more reasons why she is better off with her Father. Did I mention taking her to the phsycologist just because its free...do you really think her Mother is the best person to raise her? Wow if you do think so,,,Mothers and Fathers are equally important in a childs life is just goes on who can be the Better Parent.

Why are you trying to gain custody of your daughter if the mother is not unfit.? Is your daughter unhappy with living with her mother and wants to live with you.?
Answer: It's not just a matter of the mother not being, unfit, because lets take a look at the issue here "The Father is NOT UNFIT either"; Aren't we living on a society of equality? or is it only when it's convenient to a certain group of people. Fathers have just the same rights as mothers; a father is just as important as a mother in the development of a child, therefore even though the mother is not unfit, shouldn't we look at what's best for the child? Not whether the mother is fit or unfit? The baby is three years old and it will be unfair for her to be put in that position in choosing whom is she happier with. When she is with her mother, she misses her daddy and wants to be with him, when she is with her father, she misses her, but does not mention anything about wanting to go with her mother.

If she had re-married and do not work and stayed home with your guys daughter would you consider that 'living off' her husband.?
No, that is extremely different, because the mother will be doing her part to maintain a family; in her case the government is just maintaining her. Therefore those are two different scenarios. It is unfair that you do have families (like yourself, Cathy) that works hard, even sometimes 2 jobs and can barely put food on the table, to those individuals is what welfare is for, or individuals that can not work, not for the ones that will not work.

Yes you want to let your daughter know that you want her in your life full time but is trying to take her mother to court and get custody of her the right way to do it?. Can you not just ask for more visitation or sit down with the mother and work it out where you see her more.
Unfortunately, talking to her mother has not worked, her response to the requests are NO, because mother's are more important in a child's life than father; father's are replaceable, she can easily find another father. Unfortunately, most adults aren't mature enough to handle situations in a better manner, therefore going to court has being an option to resolve issues.

People from the beginning of time have been trying to find ways to get free money from the government. That's why we have the IRS, or free lunches at school or government loans. I work around 45 hours a week and still get some food stamps to help out a lot. Are they bad people also.? Am I.?
The IRS? Do you know that Internal Revenue is for? When we have our tax breaks, or child tax credits and any other credits and mostly to help the working tax payers and getting back some of the money that they've put in, mostly to avoid having more applicants for welfare. Free lunches/ Unfortunately not too many families, despite working hard can't afford to give their children money for lunch in school. Government loans, mostly when one is trying to open a Small Business, that will benefit others, the of course we have government grants or other types of loans to aid in buying a home, once again with the intentions of help those that can't seem to make it with their salaries alone.

because of the new laws people on 'welfare' can only be on it for so long. So give it some time and your ex will have to find a different means of supporting herself.
Yes, hopefully, because her mother has seemed to find a way to be on welfare for the past 35 plus years, and before then her grandmother and now her and her sister.

With out trying to sounding too disrespectful why should you worry if your ex is on welfare or not. You are not married to her anymore and if your daughter is being taken care of, why worry. What she is doing is NOT illegal just in some minds immoral.
The reason why I worry on her being on welfare, by the way is not my ex is my husband's ex. is because I don't think is right to teach my husband's daughter to start off on the wrong direction. I'm not going to say that this is set in stone, it's just my opinion, but welfare usually brings a bad environment (community, on where she lives, goes to school and what she is expose to), not necessarily that's 100% correct, but the possibility is there, and I'm not saying that welfare brings about crime, dropping out of school or drugs, but the risks are even greater. That's just my opinion, but are we willing to take that risk when a child has a better opportunity with the other parent.

In actuality, what she is doing it is illegal, because she just chooses not to work and lies to the government about her lifestyle so she can get the benefits that others are in greater need. For those reason and many others we do worry about my husband's daughter.

Answer 1

She won it, but, due to her excessive behavior, I was granted custody after about a year. She was emotionally abusive by trying to alienate me and my daughter and other malicious things she did.

Answer 2

Why are you trying to gain custody of your daughter if the mother is not unfit.? Is your daughter unhappy with living with her mother and wants to live with you.?

If she had re-married and do not work and stayed home with your guys daughter would you consider that 'living off' her husband.?

Yes you want to let your daughter know that you want her in your life full time but is trying to take her mother to court and get custody of her the right way to do it?. Can you not just ask for more visitation or sit down with the mother and work it out where you see her more.

People from the beginning of time have been trying to find ways to get free money from the government. Thats why we have the IRS, or free lunches at school or government loans. I work around 45 hours a week and still get some food stamps to help out a lot. Are they bad people also.? Am I.?

because of the new laws people on 'welfare' can only be on it for so long. So give it some time and your ex will have to find a different means of supporting herself.

With out trying to sounding too disrespectful why should you worry if your ex is on welfare or not. You are not married to her anymore and if your daughter is being taken care of, why worry. What she is doing is NOT illegal just in some minds immoral.

Answer 3

except the daughter is of an age to have enter (in a lot of situations 13 or older) i'd say the dad doesn't have a sturdy chance of one hundred% actual custody. to guarantee that a mom to lose custody she must be shown not worthy both do to behaviour, funds, or both. suitable scenario for dad is 50-50 in spite of the indisputable fact that the youngster finally ends up the loser contained in the best. each and each and every time I have considered a 50-50 actual custody chop up the youngster has problem protecting instantly the position their stuff is even as they want it and the father and mom commence attempting to at least one up one yet another on what they do or provide the youngster. If the father and mom are civil to at least one yet another possibly they could workout consultation an association of in the course of the week vs Fri - solar deal yet otherwise it may get loopy. in basic terms my 2cents worth.

Answer 4

Yes, I do have my daughter full time. It took $20,000 and a whole lot of patience. I had to prove the mother unfit, which was somewhat easy.... She had domestic violence and after the 730 evaluation, it was all over for her....