I met this guy on a holiday trip. we are currently emailing each other and apparently have a crush on each other. once, after not receiving his email for a few days, i called him a few times on his mobile quite late at night, and after a few tries, he switched off his mobile. next day, he emailed me that he had gone without sleep for a while and was very tired and next time, if he doesnt answer my call, not to call him repeatedly as he would reply asap. said he was really really very sleep deprived. didnt answer his email after that and after a few days, emailed me again to say that he must have hurt my feelings and didnt mean to do that. and asked after my life and such. is he interested or simply tired? i like him and according to him, he had a crush on me. what do you think?? If he's not interested, why would he email me twice? guilt??
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PS: he apparently works darn hard, finishing work most days at around 11pm, sometimes, till the wee hours.
2006-11-04 16:13:05 · 16 answers · asked by blossomjade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, imho, vacation crushes are just that. Secondly, is he in the same time zone?
He may have a wife, girl-friend, mother, etc, that was annoyed by your phone calls, or you may have actually called at a bad time.
If you really want to pursue a long distance relationship, you will have to learn trust and communication skills.
2006-11-04 16:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say babe, but a long distance relationship is hard even 4 adults. It seems like this emailing crush isn't quite enough 4 ya boy. Don't keep calling him..it looks desperate and he probably did call back out of guilt. Just play it cool and you'll b fine. Good luck!
2006-11-04 16:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very cautious with this one. You don't know too much about him and it could lead to serious problems. In my opinion there is something up, he may be interested in you but he could be married and trying to keep you from finding out. He can only email at certain times so he doesn't get caught and answering the phone late at night would raise way to many questions.
2006-11-04 16:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Just Curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off and respect his wishes, if he wants to go after you - he will. Most guys don't want a girl to hound them and be clingy or wonder what they are thinking. That's a fundamental difference between men and women - do you think he's thinking about you all the time? Even if he is - he's probably not aware of his feelings enough to know it - whereas a woman is hyper sensitve to her feelings and always knows what is happening in a relationship. This is in general of course. There are exceptions.
2006-11-04 16:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My, my...aren't we worked up? Don't you think it's a little early in the relationship to be jumping to any conclusions at all? I'd say his explanations sound plausible and that he's simply a hard working guy that you happened to bump into on a holiday trip. Don't give up on him, but don't bug him either. Just hang for now and see what develops.
2006-11-04 16:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assumed this guy is overseas.girl,you should get a grip on yourself.you are not even dating him.if you are trying to call him on his mobile many times,it can get irritating and if its an overseas call,he definitely dont welcome you calling so many times. you will only give him the impression that you are desperate. be kind to yourself.go out meet some friends,date new people.a crush does not neccessary proceed to a relationship.
2006-11-04 21:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by pristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your head say, I k now u have heard a countless number of time that a woman's intuition is usually on the mark. So in this instance follow your head and not your heart.
2006-11-04 16:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's seeing someone, why don't you go out and date, too. He has no guilt, he probably thinks your cute, and would like to hook up if and when he gets to see you again, but he is not holding his breath, he's living his life. You should, too.
2006-11-04 16:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 pm isnt that late, im 12 and go to sleep at that time. he might acually be really tired, but doubt it, try to make a move, no means no, yes means yes.
2006-11-04 16:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by Candy!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really is busy on his work, and i think its really work is important than silly crush and going out with girl, so if you think that its worth to be with this guy then go and call him back and be the second choice in your life, remember that you are given a warning.
2006-11-04 16:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋