2006-11-04 16:02:03 · 8 answers · asked by chigaimasu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually has to have both really, although a close tight-knit family would be preferred.
A tight-knit family is a serious benefit because one if you can live in harmony with so many people, (2-5 is a lot dammit), then when you're on your own having roomates, or being married won't be too much of a problem.
Also, since you've lived with these people for so long, if your bond with them is strong who needs friends!? Friends require the same bond procedures as family, except with friends you have the good opportunity of having the 'wrong' friends and them backstabbing you, while with family you have a better chance of finding GENUINE love and trust.....don't always work but that's the logic behind it.
For example, my family shares a bit of both, although it leans more toward the tight-knit side. I literally can tell my family EVERYTHING, i have no secrets with them why? Because of the genuine trust and bond we all have...each member of my family plays an important part in my life...my best friend is my brother....I trust my family over ANYONE, cause i know my family will ALWAYS be there regardless of what mistakes, bad choices, or **** i go through...i can't say the same for friends because i've been sadly disappointed...MANY times..which is why i only consider very few good friends. We encourage independance as well, my brothers know when i want my solitude or just need to be left alone....it's a sixth instinct thing now....and my father has been pushin us to live on our own anyway, grown men don't live with their parents at 30..only if it's a temporary stay ya know? So there is a time for get togethers, and then there's the time for each individual's own pasttimes.
Encouragment on solely being independant can bring out a serious separation...unless the familie's personalities clash so badly that they really can't stand each other for too long, it would work, but the more separation the less tolerant you may be of each other when you may HAVE to be amongst each other for a while, say a family get together, or everyone's off work/school, or moving somewhere. Then everyone's mentor will be someone else, such as the friend, or the lover, or whatever...and suddenly when they have no advice, or you can't click with other strangers (cause that's what they are in the beginning), who do you have to run to? Not mom dad or sister brother, because you don't know them that well because you live by solely independant lives...so it's just like askin another stranger for advice. Then when problems amongst an individual arise, it will affect the family either or because you live with them..be it finances, emotional, or any conflict...and then dealing with it is difficult because of lack of understanding, or "its his/her life, his/her world, not mine" ideals.
Like i said with some it has to be that way, but most often that method doesn't work in the looooong run...long bein the key word here.
2006-11-04 16:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both.
Because if they're close knit then they could be manipulative and subconsciously controlling, when you want to take on new things in life that they don't agree on. The good part of it is that you know you have a warm and loving family that love you deeply.
And with a family that encourages independence, it is great because they are not as controlling and encourage your development as you wish and will not shoot you down for your independence, but if they encourage the independence a little too much you can end up being ignorant of other people in daily life and only worry about yourself.
So I would say both.
2006-11-04 16:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tight Knit
2016-09-29 10:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel a close, tight-knit family, this kind of family prays together and stays together. When the hard and tough times come, they have each other back. a family that encourages independance also encourages separation and when problems arises go it alone.
2006-11-04 16:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference? I mean a family can be both.being a tight- knit family does not mean that the family members should lose their independence. remember: love brings freedom not dependence.In a real family the members live independently yet they aren't alienated from each other.
2006-11-04 17:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a tight knit family and be independent...The two have nothing to do with each other...I'm very independent and very close to my family...
2006-11-04 16:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why it cant be both i keep my family safe as in my kids dont walk the streets however they do their own thing in a supervised way.And I always tell them friends move on and make their own life family should always be there for you. When they turn 16 they will be encouraged to get a part time job to give them some play money so to speak.
2006-11-04 16:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a family that is a little bit of both...it's cool when you have a family that loves you, but trusts you enough to make your own decisions. Mine are always there when I need them. which is good, I'll never go wrong.
2006-11-04 16:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by poeticjusticemonroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
close family is better due to support
2006-11-04 16:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depend on ur mental set-up
2006-11-04 17:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by daaruin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋