So i am dating a guy, 25 years old currently holding a work permit, for the second time today. Still, we don't have so much in common and we stayed quiet for some of the time. So i thought may be we are not very suitable for each other and he is, too, not that into me. But in the second date, he played with my hands, placed his hands on mine, put my hand on his lap and held my hands (ocassionally). I don't know what that means? He also talks about how he wants to get into serious dating and get married. I was a bit scared cus i thought it is a bit early to talk about this. So, i built a wall between us and don't have a lot of trust in him. At the same time, i still have feelings for him. He did point out one thing: he feels that i don't like to share my feelings with him and i don't like to express myself.
I feel very frustrated and afraid to get cheated on (for using me to get citizenship).
2006-11-04 15:54:29 · 8 answers · asked by polinatora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Green Card. Don't jump into anything. If u marry him it will always be on your mind if it's the real thing. Take things slow. If he starts to get impatient, than you know the answer.
2006-11-04 15:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Aidge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard to clarify his intention of dating you at this point, whether he's aiming for your citizen status, or simply because he likes you. clearly you're not going to marry him any time soon (or i hope not), there's nothing wrong to date around and see how things go between you two. maybe you'll find some unpleasant traits in him that you dislike, or you'll develop more feelings toward him. so my advice to you for now, continue to date him as you wish, but never, i repeat, never jump into marriage with this guy. better yet, let him to earn the citizenship status by himself, even though it'd takes him years to obtain that, but i don't see any issues that have to deal with you as long as he could stay here and is content with his job, in fact, it's his problems that he needs to worry about. *cheer up and just try to have some fun, you're still too young to let such thing to clutter your mind!*
2006-11-04 16:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ms_♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married someone who was on a visitors visa and you know what as soon as they got their papers the whole idea of divorce was brought up. I was devastated and I became very ill and my life was turned upside down. If your having these problems look deeper...it means it's not meant to be. Someone up there is giving you these signs to wake up and move on. You will be used trust me it happens too often. Listen to me, relationships should be good from the start if you can't communicate it will not work. Me smart and move on now before it's too late and you have to deal with this bs I'm going through now. Please don't do it......there will be someone better.
2006-11-04 15:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like him you should give it try. but I'm glad you know about the citizenship matter. many illegal immigrants tend to take advantage of us that way. they don't care about nothing but being legal. sometimes, they even have wife and kids back in their country and still trying to break our heart by using us. that almost happen to me 4 month ago. you should be really careful with him and you should study Hon more.
2006-11-04 16:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by lizie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no where there is smoke there is fire!
Shows he is NOT commited to you at all--probably nothing more than some action for now!
wise up and find a better class of guy that will respect you and be totally FAITHFUL to you and you ALONE!!!!! talk is cheap=actions speak ;ouder than words!
2006-11-04 15:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your gut. if you have to ask yourself this question then you probably already know the answer in your heart.
2006-11-04 15:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he want your citizenship.
2006-11-04 15:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by mi2z_myst3ry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ooopppssss
maybe he wants your
2006-11-04 15:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋