Why can't I get a girlfriend?

Question

I'm 14 years old. I'm fairly attractive. Somewhat popular. Respectful of a girl's feelings (although I don't show it often). I have never had a a girlfiend and I've been wondering why that is. I've been close, really close, once (maybe twice) to having the most beautiful girl in the world, but that's over know. I would respect a girl, really. I come from a good family, and even though I'm not that popular, I should still be able to get a girl. I'm so tired of the Friday nights alone. Please, any girls, tell me how I can attract a 14 - 15 year old girl, for a serious relationship. Unlike many guys, I actually want a real relationship. Someone to love, to cherrish, someone beautiful. Please any girls out there help me with this. Thanks.

Answer 1

I'm 15 and i like boys that are self confident, and that are trust worthy. Even if they don't say they like me, their actions tell me everything. Its the little things that count for me. I wish the guys in my highschool were more like you. Most of them are huge jerks, and they think they are better than anyone else. I never had a boyfriend until last week. He is cute, funny, and is interested in ME. All the girls love him, and he picked me. Sure im pretty, funny, smart, and nice, and he picked me for all of these reasons. So pick a girl who you think you could have a relationship with, and go for it.

Answer 2

First of all, little brother, 14-15 year olds do not have "Serious" relatonships. And why are you home alone on Friday nights? Where would you be if the most beautiful girl in the world was by your side? Well, go there then, alone... "available," don't you see.

You're still a bit young to be worried over it. "Serious relationships" don't just pop up for the weekend.

I'll quote you:
"I'm 14 years old. I'm fairly attractive. Somewhat popular. Respectful of a girl's feelings (although I don't show it often). I have never had a a girlfiend and I've been wondering why that is."

Why? Because you don't show them respect. You said it yourself. Attractive, popular and a real jerk.
Is that it?

Try concentrating on yourself. Go deep down and find out who you really are. Be you. Spend these tremendous years of youth finding out who you are - what it is that makes you truly attractive and popular. When you know who you really are, and know what you really want, then you will have learned how to recognize that which you most desire and how to show the proper respect for it (her) when you introduce yourself.

Answer 3

Aww that was so SWEET and poetic. See, now I wanna date you :(. I'm a 14 year old girl in the same dillema, but Im wondering if your trying too hard?? Also, NO 15 year old will date some guy 14, sooorry. It doesnt work that way. I see that you're "in the market", as a metaphore. So how about the school dance? And that girl in your French class that sit behind you? Or whatever...just getting the nerve to ask is the key!!

Answer 4

Dude, you're 14! What makes you think you should have a girlfriend? I'm 35 now and living with someone but when I was 15 I was a social recluse. I went bowling with my uncle every Friday night. I didn't have my first girlfriend until 2 months before I finished high school. Trust me, at your age it's more trouble than it's worth. As you get older it'll be much easier.

Answer 5

I think you should find the girl you really want and go after her buy her flowers, call her ect... Don't be just respectful to her but to everyone. Girls probably think your rude and they don't want some rude guy going up to them and treating them like ****. Don't be to nice either know when she's a little ***** too. I hope you get what I'm trying to tell you. But know in your heart and mind that someone will come along. Best of luck to you and the lucky girl!!

Answer 6

sometimes, people just aren't ready for a relationship. I know, you probably are, but most girls your age probably aren't. I know I wasn't when I was 14. I mean, I know a lot of teens have been dating since they were like 8, but some of us are just so special that we're meant to have only 1 person. I only began dating last April (I was 17 1/2) and it was great, but even then, the guy I went with dumped me. He thought he was ready, but wasn't. I now know that sometimes, people like us just have to wait a little bit longer than others, because we're just that important.

Answer 7

I agree, you dont need a girlfriend at 14. You are likely feeling left out or inadequate. dont torture yourself. I would get involved in activities that you enjoy and forget about chasing a girl. You will find when you are doing something you really like, and not always trying to hook up with someone you will find someone really worthwile being with. the less you care about being with someone the more attractive you are to the opposite sex. Weird but thats how it works. Women like guys who arent "trying" all the time

Answer 8

You are NOT going to like my answer, but you really don't need a girlfriend at age 14. I promise, it would be more trouble than you want. Find a group of people to hang out with that share you values and learn how to enjoy group activities. Usually special relationships come out of that.

Answer 9

first your 14, so don't get caught up in the drama of a serious relationship, go out to the popular places and enjoy there company

Answer 10

Well, how do you approach girls? Are you shy or do you talk to them alot?? If you dont say anything to them then you will never find love, you have to have convos with them and just ask them out, if they say yes then great, if not, then move to a new girl, just be yourself and dont try and be someone that your not.