Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 months. We have had sex and all that but she wont let me see her body. Its basically because she doesnt fully trust me yet and she wants to make sure she isnt going to get hurt, but she says she loves me. My thing is if she loves me then she should be able to share her body with me and trust me. It makes our sex life very unintimate doing it with clothes on all the time.I mean we are practically living together, she sleeps in my room every night, we spend all day together. I have let my guard down, I trust her, but it hinders me from getting closer to her because I know what not being able to see her body means, it means she isnt fully confortable with me yet. She has doubt. but she "loves" me...its kind of an oxymoron.And she keeps putting time limits on it like Ill show you in 3 months. And my thing is if you know you love some one time shouldnt make a difference...Am I overreacting??
2006-11-04 15:25:20 · 22 answers · asked by rdbowles12390 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you are over-reacting at all, that must be very frustrating. Be patient with her, it seems like she has some self esteem issues, so if you keep at it, keep telling her how beautiful her body is, she'll eventually come around. It isn't that she doesn't trust you, she just has issues with her body. Maybe she was emotionally abused about her body by someone she cared about in the past, which could be why she feels the need to hide from you. As long as you remain patient and loving, she'll eventually let her guard down, it seems like you are doing a great job so far.
2006-11-04 15:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Muggle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are. Maybe she just had a really bad experience with a guy where he laughed at her and she is still reliving that. And she does love you probably just don't want you to laugh like the other guy. But I think if you are living together and she still hasn't at least given you a peek yet, then I think you should probably stop sex, and leave your clothes on around her all the time. Sleep out on the couch. Pretty much pull away from her and see how she likes it after a while. I'm sure she will get the message when she misses your arms around her.
2006-11-04 16:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just told us..."I have let my guard down, I trust her, but it hinders me from getting closer to her because I know what not being able to see her body means, it means she isnt fully confortable with me yet."
But, remember, this isn't all about her not trusting you. She isn't comfortable with herself. You can help by complementing her in all aspects; body/looks, intelligence, appreciation, etc. If she is more comfortable with herself all around, and if she hears you telling her these, she will be more likely to share the rest of herself with you. She needs an increase in confidence. It's not all up to you, but you can do whatever you can to help. Reminder how much you care for her. Leave notes, flowers, just remember she needs to be lifted up.
2006-11-04 15:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by karime444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not be happy with the way her body looks, or she's very self-conscious, so she doesn't want you to see in case you have a negative opinion. If you've had sex already I think she has moved beyond the "fear of getting hurt" part. Talk to her about it, tell her that it doesn't matter to you as long as you can share that special time together.
2006-11-04 15:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 07:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may just take time let her feel very comfortable when the time is right it will all show. and if not then theres something wrong with that and it should be discuss she might just be shy and dont want to at this point and time. and then again that person may think if the body is shown u may not like it just give it time. wish u good luck.
2006-11-04 15:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by teresa_na2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I dont blame her. Guys are dogs (no offense)
And doing that with someone that you have gone out with a short period of time is very scary. Dont rush her, she will let you see her body sooner or later, you cant rush things like this.
2006-11-04 15:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah u totally r overreacting calm down thats probably why she doesn't want u to see her body becuz ur to hype ur suppose to be supporting her and making her feel comfortable with u not making her feel like a piece of meat give it time and act like a gentlemen and she'll come around.
2006-11-04 15:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not comfortable with her body. You need to tell her how pretty she is. This kinda of thing takes time just be patient with her. If you love her you will need to be patient.
2006-11-04 15:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea youre over reacting. shes self conscious. she'll show you her body in time, just dont pressure her. its only been 2 months, im surprised you guys are already having sex. just let her show you when she feels comfortable.
2006-11-04 15:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋