There's this girl at my new church, she seems really nice, and I like her alot. I don't think I have the courage to ask her out though, for fear of rejection. Should I go for it anyway? Throw caution to the wind?
2006-11-04 15:11:18 · 15 answers · asked by imapostolic2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Things seem to be going pretty well in my new church. There is a nice girl there, I have started to talk to, and I like her, but I have no courage to ask her out, plus, I have the morbid fear of rejection. Should I? It's weird to me that it's so easy to talk with her, and that I like her. Usually those two don't go hand in hand.
2006-11-06 15:17:28 · update #1
You should try talking to her first, and if it seems like she likes you too, then go for it! Being afraid and not doing anything doesn't solve anything, it just makes things worse, trust me.
2006-11-04 15:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by apx212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I think that fear of rejection is as natural as any other fear. We have fears to help us react and protect us, unfortunately, some fears are unappropriated and can hold us from growing, the one important thing here is to try to diminish the fear of rejection as much as you can. Here are the steps for you: 1) Before you approach her, you have to think of how bad can it go if you approach her and start a conversation. How bad can that end? I want you think about this for a minute. When you see all of the bad things that can happen, you will realize that none of them will ever put you in a position of danger or anything. 2) DO NOT try to impress her whatsoever, NO, NO, NO! talk to her in the most relaxed way you can think of, be cool and speak relaxed... no ticks!! 3) Think of a what are you going to say and then her possible answers, rehearse the situation a little bit. and 4) Think and convince your self that the least result you can get by putting your self in this situation is that you are going to learn how to approach the next girl you like.
When you talk to her, teas her, do not be so serious, teas her and be a little bit arrogant. If you practice talking to woman you like and you use this, you will soon start loosing fear of rejection. Remember, you are as scared as she is!
2006-11-04 15:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Victor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, i for my area think of that girls ought to now and lower back ask boys out, in basic terms reason i'm a guy and dont have the heart to ask them out myself. yet i think of why most of the adult men are apprehensive approximately asking is approximately what unusual rumours would be around as quickly as he asks. now and lower back it facilitates if the girl asks, it is going to provide the boy somewhat vanity.
2016-11-27 19:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to build up ur confidence and not havea great of fear of rejectino . talk to her . get to knwo her . make sure she actually likes u as a friend and doesnt think your a freak . u can only learn from this situation . but dont move to fast . goood luckk
2006-11-04 15:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by yourrr_mommm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally. Ask her to grab coffee before/after church
2006-11-04 15:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by looking4aVacation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get through your fear and just go up to her and ask her out! You wont know until you try, so go on and do it!
2006-11-04 15:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by christierae1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kdding me ask her out and if she rejects you its alright. Like why would you be embarresed if you ask her out jus switch churches or never talk to her again and if you stiop talkiing to her shes gonna miss your comvos and everything and shes gonna be the one going for u.
2006-11-04 15:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by alonzo h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it dude.......church is a great place to find a woman!!!! you know they have some morals and decency...so at the very least shell let you down easy....plus i love nice girls....a sweetheart is all i need!!!........theyre more likely to be faithful and understanding too....
2006-11-04 15:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure y not. life's too short to fiddle over things like that. besides you'll never know if she likes u back if u don't ask.
2006-11-04 15:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Pooh Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it anyways, and if she says no then its no big deal, she isnt the one for you.
2006-11-04 15:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋