I have been seening this older man for a while now and he wants a relationship one week and not the next . I know he has not had a girl friend in years and i dont know what to do?
This past week things wair going good then he tells me he dose not want this again!
2006-11-04 15:06:19 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how much older is he? Perhaps he has a daughter your age and feels guilt ridden, or maybe he's lying to you and he's actually married!
2006-11-04 15:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by moejaymom 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just think of it this way: When you are first seeing someone, they are showing you their best. It's not like it goes uphill and the magic only gets better from here. The niceties and other things only diminish with time. So if this is the best he will ever be with you...is it enough? If what he has to offer you now leaves you feeling inadequate and disatisfied, I guarantee you there is no secret reveal 5 years from now that will make all the struggle worth it or something.
2006-11-04 23:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by here_nor_there 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all is this guy married, and you don't know it???? I think hes a totally confused person. His indecisivness would drive me crazy. Point blank ask him what he really wants from this relationship and where does he expect it to go? Tell him your not a yoyo and you don't like a relationship thats like a roller coaster ride. If he can't give you astraight answer, then by all means end it and move on, life is too! short to waste on someone who doesn't know what he wants. Its not fair to be there only when he wants you and your his last resort.
2006-11-04 23:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by smplylori32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously something is going on. If he hasn't had a girlfriend in years, there may be a reason. I suspect you are going to learn that this is how your relationship will continue if you don't move on. Unless you find him absolutely irresistible, it would probably be in your own best interest to move on. You could try telling him you are moving on, but if he ever decides to get serious to give you a call. If you keep letting him do this, he will probably do just that.
2006-11-04 23:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by wolfmusic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just doesn't like you enough to have a relationship. It's probably not that he doesn't want to have a relationship with everyone, it's just that you are not his perfect girlfriend for some reason. Maybe it's because you're younger. Maybe you're not as attractive as he would like. It could be a lot of reasons.
2006-11-04 23:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has you on the back burner for when he wants company. If you are having sex with this man, that would be my answer. Some men are like that but girl he would not be playing games with me. Show his *** you are better than every now and then.
2006-11-04 23:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by latasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ii think hes proberly scared of getting hurt so he trys to pull away when he starts to get close has he been hurt in a past relationship
2006-11-04 23:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by julie327495 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel him to get lost from your life.'
he just wasting your time.
be brave girl and you deserve a better man!
2006-11-04 23:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Moon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's never had a girlfriend so he doesn't know what to do
2006-11-04 23:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by alaskasnogurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He knows what he wants and he is getting it. Why pander to you when you pander to him? It is called using you.
2006-11-04 23:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋