I've been with this married man for about six months now and we had known each other for almost two years now. I understand that he is married and have two kids but it was soooooo wrong for me to be with him this whole time. Now I finally think that I am strong enough to break this relationship because of the fact that I feel so bad about what I had been doing.It wouldve been better If I didnt know he was married. But I stopped and thought about it I deserve better than this. Today I am goin to call him up and break it up because this is so wrong for both me and him. I had tried to talk to him about his wife, what would happen if she finds out, he told me that they are goin thru some problems. My point is he was never there when I needed him he's always busy, thats because he is married, and I could understand that. Liking him is not the problem, being with him forever will never happen...So today Im goin to break it up, but I dont know how it would feel for me.
2006-11-04 15:00:53 · 19 answers · asked by simplegurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is coming from someone who has been there and done that...you will feel relief. sure, there will be some heartache. but dont let that weaken you into going back. stay strong, and shortly you will feel the great relief in knowing that you did the right thing.
and then you will feel freedom. you will feel free to date whomever you want, and the freedom to be seen in public and go to the movies and restaraunts together. free to go to his place instead of yours, stay the night if you want.
things will get better, just go through with it and stay strong afterwards.
good luck
2006-11-04 15:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im married and I was that wife being cheeted on too .My husband cheeted on me while I was pregnate with our second child,and continued seeing her for two years,and had a baby by her.the baby is now a year old.And now I have third baby,and am still with my husband.But you see I got him back...our third baby is not his and he doesn't even know it.HA-HA!And I don't think he deserves to know the truth,...after all the shi* he's put ME through.It made me alot more of toughf hearted momma,I'll tell you that .What your doing IS wrong ,but what your boyfriend is doing is even worse!I understand anyones feelings,and I know you will feel bad after the break up,but could you imagine how your boyfriends wife would feel if she found out.Us women are supposed to stick together,not stick to each others husbands.No hard feelings.
2006-11-04 23:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i don't know about breaking up with a married man, but the fact that you're making the right approach, you will feel much better within yourself for doing what was right... You will think of him still for a little while, but it will pass... Before you know it you'll meet someone new, and hopefully not another married guy...
BTW, if he tries calling, keep it platonic and steer away from intimated conversations.
2006-11-04 23:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Middlehitter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so doing the right thing because he's married which means you were only temporary any way. the other thing is that you were a secret and you know it was wrong so that means that you had to deal with the consequences if his wife and kids found out. I think you are making the right decision and you should be happy and proud it may hurt at first because you like him and care about him but in the end you'll be happy you did it.
2006-11-04 23:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by smiley girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making the right choice. I could only imagine that you are going to feel empty,sad, and feel terrible but that will pass. Keep all of your option's open. You will find a nice single guy who can go out with get to know better. Remember a single man who has no ties can be there for you when you really need him.
"So break up and move on."
2006-11-04 23:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what will happen if his wife finds out, she'll find you and kick your *** , you have answered every ? you have asked... of course your gonna feel like you lost something, not someone cuz he is nothing but a thing to you and him, so it will last for a few....don't be a home wrecker...if his marriage is gonna fail then you don't want to be the blame. It may without you, so go on with your life without him... and YES you can do better then him.... he'll want you even more if you don't give him his cake too...don't fall for it...let him do his thing with his wife..and if your gonna be together then it might happen AFTER his duty with his wife.....L
2006-11-04 23:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking it all off would probably be the smartest thing u could possibly do ..most men you cheat on their wifes or have a relation wiht a nother women on the side ..dont ever really plan on compeletly leaving their wives they jus need somebody to fill a certian amount and place in them....if they didnt leave them now or still continue to not tell their spouse they r surely not leaving and have no plans....men are pigs..and he might say he cares or even loves you but its not love if he is makin no attempt to leave his spouse..and even if he did why would you want somebody who is capable of doin such hurt and wrong doin to hi sfamily whats that say about the kind of person he is.!? i hope this helped!
2006-11-04 23:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps if u brake it off from him, you will find true love, someone u don't have to share, and someone who won't disapoint you. if she finds out she will be hurt, it could destroy his marriage, or she might come after you and blame you for her pain. so i would most definitly break it off, you are wasting your effort here, he has put you in a bad situation, with no promise of a tomorrow, it is u who must suffer, and don't forget what goes around comes around,and when we do a wrong to another, there is always karma that must be dealt with, there is always a price for this, not to mention how his poor wife would feel if she found out, put yourself in her shoes for a minute, and think how u would feel.
2006-11-04 23:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel bad at first but you are going to feel so much better and proud of yourself. Don't waste any more time on this cheater. It will just take time away from finding the right person for you. It's not him.
2006-11-04 23:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man of your own that doesn't have such obvious baggage that stops him from being able to give you what you deserve, complete and total attention from someone who wants you and only you, not someone who's getting the cake and eating to.
2006-11-04 23:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by mommy of 4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋