Ok so I met this awesome girl and after a few weeks we started dating. It was great for about 3 weeks but then she started to change. She started to seem a little less excited when I was around, but I figured she was just losing the hots for me and that she was just settling into the relationship. I however was crazy about her. Whenever I was hangin out with my guy friends if she was around she was the one that got all of my attention. Now remember she'd gotten over the crazy about me part, so me always wanting to be around her wore on her and after enduring it for a few days she broke up with me, saying i was "clingy" and other things. The thing is, that I was losing the hotts for her just as she had done for me (i was beginning to settle into the relationship just as she had) but it was too late and she had stopped liking me. The fact that I was starting to stop being the way I was makes know feel that we should still be together.
2006-11-04 14:52:43 · 6 answers · asked by Brian W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I had been given a couple of more days to get over my clingyness I know we would be extremely happy and everything would be great. The problem is she doesn't like me anymore and now shes got her eye on some guy thats done some sexual stuff before. Hes telling her "he'll change for her" and "i like you because I know your not easy". but hes just playin her, because hes doing the same thing to 2 other girls while hes doin it to her. people have tried to tell her this but she won't believe them. I still have extreme feelings for her but I don't know how to get her to like me again. we aren't great friends after the break up, so I know I need to build a friendship before I can attempt to get her to like me again, but how do I built that friendship, and when I do where do I go from there? and how do I get the other guy out of the picture? Don't say anything like "just get over her" because the with way I feel about her it just isn't possible to get over her. Details appriciated. Thanks.
2006-11-04 14:59:10 · update #1
So she broke up with you and crushed you. Big deal. I'm going to let you in on a little secret: She's going to get crushed one day too. It happens to everybody. And if you like her as much as you say you do, then you'll be the 'friend' that's there for her when it happens (which sounds like it will be soon). Don't try to stop her from liking this guy, that only makes you an enemy in her eyes. Just let some time pass. Oh, one more thing, If it doesn't work out this way, it will be ok. She probably doesn't deserve you anyway. Theres going to be hundreds of girls!!!! I know you don't want to hear that, but it's true.
2006-11-04 15:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by sixstring 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was nothing wrong with how you were being.Her not being so hot for you recently was not her settling into the relationship, it was her losing interest.
She broke up with you because she wanted to.
Do not change how you are,far more guys should be more attentive to their ladies.:)
2006-11-04 15:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. You have to show her you're not like that, which of course requires going out with her and actually not being clingy, and even then there's NO guarantee, but it's the only way it's possible.
2006-11-04 14:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still being clingy. Back off. If you can't let go, then you are a prime candidate to become a stalker. Let this fish swim away and learn from the experience.
2006-11-04 14:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open, truthful, and enterprise..... tell him what you think of and pass on along with your existence. in case you're taking the basic street and destroy it off over the telephone (ick) or in e mail (yuk) you danger him no longer getting the image. although, in case you danger a face-to-face stumble upon at someplace delicate you may fold and think of roughly yet another 'pity-date' (argh). attempt to fulfill him in passing, that way you 'have something to do' or 'someplace to pass'. tell him that that's
2016-12-28 13:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by putz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you, it isn't up to you whether you get back together!!
2006-11-04 14:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋