When I drink with a guy, no matter the relationship, I always wind up getting trashed and taking off my clothes as soon as we get in private. This is not only embarrassing, but dangerous since I usually wind up having sex with them and I almost never realize it until we have been at it for awhile. I can't consider it rape, since, drunk as I am, I usually want it and insist on it. The fact is, I have had 6 partners this past year (10 total), all of them either casual, or just guy friends of mine who I happened to be drunk with. Don't know if I should be concerned with this, or okay with it...
2006-11-04 14:39:54 · 23 answers · asked by nycgirl2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
None of the guys that I am sleeping with when I have these blackouts realize that this even happens to me. I don't tell them and they don't know eachother- they probably think that I am really into them and then when I don't follow up and turn it into something, they are the one's who feel taken advantage of. I know thats not good either, but I dont want ya'll thinking that I'm simply a toy that this common group of guys is passing around... I'm not sure why I black out like this or why my first instinct when I'm that gone is to get naked. THAT is why I wrote on here..
2006-11-04 14:57:20 · update #1
This isn't ok and you know it. That's why you are asking the question. You are using alcohol to justify your actions. You may need to degrade your self as some sort of act of self-punishment, or there could me other factors that we aren't obvious. Clearly, you need to change your actions and get some help to achieve some insight into your motives. You are going to get an STD, get raped, get aids, get pregnant, or all of the above. You gotta consider changing!
2006-11-04 14:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by blackfangz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you asked this question seems to say that you are already worried about it and concerned with yourself for behaving this way. Maybe you should stop drinking or limit yourself within a reasonable boundary. If you're not the kind to settle down, this may just be a part of who you are. But if you hope to eventually find Mr. Right, this type of behavior may make it difficult to do so, just because you don't really seem to get to know men very well. The bottom line is how does the behavior go along with the morals you consider to be important. If you happen to believe that premarital sex or drinking are immoral, you might need to seriously rethink what's going on. But if you are very open to this sort of behavior, think it through and make sure that this lifestyle is one that you want. Then, take the necessary precautions to protect yourself. This is your decision, just take some time and think about how you really feel about the situation.
2006-11-04 14:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many issues going on here first of all you need to stop the drinking.You stated you don't realize your having sex with them till after a while..... that means your having blackouts which is extremely dangerous. Your playing russian roulette with your life. There is some underlying issues why you are continuing to persist with this type of behavior and you know that it is causing you harm and you recognize it.
You should see a counselor or therapist to try and help you figure this out.
2006-11-04 14:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everybody wrote 'stop drinking' but there is more to it than the drinking thing going on..You do know it is (you said embarassing) and can be dangerous..Guess it's good you don't consider it rape BUT I do think of it as these guys are taking advantage here a bit. (Don't you think so?) Do you see these guys after this? I take it they are friendly but not like instant boyfriends.. I don't know.. this doesn't sound good, but I don't know what to say to make you quit here.. Does anyone else know about this behavior? I mean you really need somebody around you to talk to about it (and not just a bunch of strangers like us.. lol) sorry, cannot be of more help..
2006-11-04 14:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be very concerned,aswell as the guys too.A reputation is a hard thing to change for the better but very easy to change for the worst.One day you may want to have a serious relationship with someone thats good for you and with a less than desireable past he may find out and be driven away by what he will learn about you.
2006-11-04 14:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing remotely okay about this. It is slutty and It is dangerous. But you can change that. You need to get help with your drinking right away.
You will never find true love this way because no guy wants a woman to spend his life with that takes it off for anyone and everyone after a few drinks.
2006-11-04 14:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
certainly i don't think of he cares in case you used him or not, he's a guy and any type of hookup is nice for him. If he did not comprehend you till now your sudded hookup then he in all likelihood isn't fascinated besides because you in basic terms finally end up searching like yet another hoe to him. in case you experience slutty and dirty about it, do not do it back? and also you mustn't experience bitchy because i don't think of he quite cares because he did not get to charm to close you so that is not a loss for him in any respect. If its any convenience, he became a hottie correct? then you definitely attached with a hottie and it became interesting: thats it, theres no room in existence for regrets so stay existence and save your dam thong on :)
2016-11-28 19:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ain't the 70s and disco is dead. There's no logical reason to exhibit this behavior. There are many health-related reasons to cease this behavior. Go to some AA meetings. Even if you're not a fullblown alcoholic being with other people who have done stupid things while drunk can actually help you get your act together.
2006-11-04 15:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If getting an STD or winding up pregnant is nothing to worry about (in your opinion) then I'd say you're okay. There's obviously some emotional issues going on. You probably shouldn't drink excessively until you work them out.
2006-11-04 14:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by anne s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should definitely be concerned. You are leaving your self open for many STDs and maybe even HIV/AIDS. Your behavior is very dangerous because more than likely the sex is unprotected. 3 months after your last sexual partner you need to go have yourself tested for HIV/AIDS as well as the other STDs, You also need to modify your risky behavior. I'm always around if you need further help. Please do something soon. Get help! Your behavior is very destructive.
2006-11-04 14:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Muffin Cakes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋