OK i wasd gettin married but i just found ouy she was not for me help please trust me she was in the wrong he?

Question

ok i thought i saw her in an embrace with him thorough a reflection in the window. i confronted her with it and she did not deny it. Later after a couple of other unusual happennings i forced the guy to leave with a fist in his mush...Need a bit of support here chaps did i do the right thiing?

Still dont think i was making myself clear i hit him cos he n my nea future wife seemed to get it on, n , she didnt deny it,i asked him to leave...the spineless **** neither defended her or confronted me. thats why i hit him. and i am not the hitting type. my question is how can someone wreck someones future without giving the slightest ****..My parents hve paid thousands towards this wedding 'N' now its fooked. need some sensible advice PLEASE..
Marc..

Answer 1

if she did that before you were thinking about getting married whats to say that she wouldn't have done it when your married.. it was not only her fault it was that assholes aswell and yes i belive he did derseve it and if he had known she was engaged to be married i think he would have deserved more than what you gave him so i think you did the right thing.... i know someone that had that happen to them and as i said to them "your better than that" think that way mate and you souldnt have a problem........ goodluck with everything i hope you find someone in the near future that will treat you how you sould be treated..
have a good one and i'm here if you need someone you don't know to talk to
mel

Answer 2

I dont know if i would have hit him. Most people who get involved with someone who is currently seeing someone else dont know about that other person, therefore its not their fault. If he threatened you in any way then yes, it was fine to hit him.

As far as your fiance goes- she showed a horrible lack of judgement, however she did not lie to you abou tit. The best course of action would be to walk away from it all.

If you ever plan on getting married in the future, and simply cannot get the money back that was already spent on the wedding due to contracts or whatnot, see if you can switch it up a bit. See can they just hold the date to a future time. Or have the party, with food, but for a different occasion. I recently heard of a woman who found out she was being cheated on i believe 2 weeks before her wedding. Needless to say- she cancelled the wedding, but couldnt get her money back. So she turned around and gave the party to raise money for a local womens shelter- she ended up raising a lot of money (the people she invited were treated to full course meals, dj, party and all).

Best thing, is if you donate it you can take some off on your taxes, but you have to ask a financial planner about what is eligible-

sorry to hear about your fiance- she does sound just horrible. I think though with you finding out now it is better than if you were to have gotten married already and then found out- that would be terrible!

By the way- the answer to your question is people do the dumbest things for the dumbest reasons, none which are good enough to stress over. Some really do not think anyone will be hurt by their careless actions.

Answer 3

Man, the whole thing sucks. As far as the ex-bride, see if you can't get her to pay your parents back some. Also, when you do decide to try another, why not opt for a cheaper wedding?
Now living in the Western USA some people do it for little, and it is still nice. A church chapel, a back yard, all can be elegant, Example:
A friendly minister, no charge, church use for an hour, no charge, use of a large home for receptoin, no charge. Brides mother, a baker by trade did the cake. Groom's father did a very professional photo shoot. Everyone who had a bit of money contributed food and drink as they could afford.
It was a bang up time. The way I will do it if I ever decide to take the plunge, unless the other wants to pay for the fancies.

Answer 4

Be thankful that the truth came out before the wedding. you could have gone through eith the whole thing found out she was a cheater and then been lfeft eith alimony and possibly child support. When ou parents know the reason for the wedding being off they will totally understand and I am sure her parne ts will be utterly thrilled to learn why their daughter is no longer getting married. My heart goes out to you but remember your past is your pat don't make it your future Good luck the answer may not layin the bottom of a bootle but hte bootle is going to make it a hell of a lot funner tryin' to find it

Answer 5

well i think you did the right thing hit first ask latter ,the world is full of do gooders and they all want to help but went it all gose wrong they will say tolled you so. just think if you where married and you had kids and she was up to no good things would be a lot harder to sort out there are some good faith-full Lady's out there.
i would take some time out and do what your heart says to you only you now the good bits about your lady like she may have a silly smile or sing funny or fart in bed and it stinks only you can choose but think it through and don't rush things good luck mate lots of others have been there so your not the only one trust me

Answer 6

There`s always going to be another man ready to give,and they wouldn`t care whether Your engaged or married,or whether she is.Question is- Do You want to continue ralationship ?Why is she running off into another`s arms,especially when Your getting married?What`s the deeper issue.Were You neglecting Her / If so then it`s not Her fault.It got Your attention though didn`t it?,and perhaps she didn`t just call the wedding off coz she actually does love You but the pain was unbearable,who knows.Think about it.If it`s Your undoing-fix-it.If it`s just infidelity then be glad You saw Her for what she is,and had a lucky escape

Answer 7

you were getting married is it a no no now ..if SO I'm sorry the only person to say I was wrong is you mate ...have you overreacted who knows maybe gut instinct lots of females these day have male Friends it doesn't mean anything you have to sit down with your intended and talk weddings are so stressful if you get through the mayhem well done but if you don't ..wouldn't blame you but she is hurting you are hurting talk for god sake NOW do you love her does she love you step back from the wedding stress do you want her for your wife does she want you for her husband its yes or no or lucky escape talk man or run

Answer 8

I don't necessarily think that hitting him was the right thing to do. But I think that you need to find out why she felt the need to go to another man. Also you need to know why she managed to get herself into that sort of situation. Either why I think that you deserve some answers and you are well rid. Better to find out now, rather than later

Answer 9

Yeah cos violence solves everything right??!! If you cannot trust her then you cannot love her.... Its a good thing the marriage is off really. Wouldn't want to end up another statistic in the divorce charts would you? Or with a criminal record?!

Answer 10

i think you had a lucky escape you found out before you got married
they were both in the wrong but you ex girl more as she was engaged to be married so she lied cheated on you
the man is a complete **** hole i would have punched him as well
good luck with sorting this mess out you will need it but life does go on
it will get easier