my boyfriend has been going out for 11 months and 15 days and all we have done is hold hands and hug. i tell him i love him but when he says it i know that he really doesn't mean it, at least not as much as i mean it. Should i kiss him or wait on him to kiss me because if something don't happen soon, then i'm going to have to end this relationship.
2006-11-04 14:13:08 · 27 answers · asked by punkeey_monkeey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make the first move... if he backs away, something's up... Who knows... He may be gay and is probably trying to figure it out for himself.
But see how he reacts when you make the move on him, before doing anything else.
I do agree with many here, and nearly a year without kissing is a bit too long... Holding back from sex, on the other hand, well, I can find that somewhat understandable... then again, maybe not.
2006-11-04 14:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Middlehitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem when I was 16 (bf was 17). But I knew he really liked me, he didn't say "I love you" and not mean it.
Finally one night, sitting by a very romantic lake, snuggled up together in the moonlight, I asked him why he thought we'd never kissed. He said it was because he was afraid if we did that he wouldn't want to stop. At the time I thought he meant stop kissing, but now that I'm more wise to the worries of young men, I think he was concerned for my virtue (ha ha). Anyway, we kissed that night, and he was a great kisser, and a really good boyfriend, and we did break up after a while, but it was a wonderful exercise in intimacy. And no, he's not gay.
2006-11-04 22:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how old you are. If you are in junior high school or high school, talk to him about it. If you both are over 18, I would say you have a problem on your hands and you need to discuss it with him ASAP. Even if you are young, there is nothing wrong with kissing your girlfriend or boyfriend. Maybe he has some hangups because of how is parents are or have raised him.l After talking to him about it if he still won't kiss you, then you may have to end the relationship.
2006-11-04 22:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by brucenjacobs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After almost a year of dating, you should feel like you can talk to him about this. Ask him where you stand with him. Ask him to be brutally honest, but be ready in case you hear something you don't like. My understanding from what you wrote is that it has been his choice that you haven't kissed. You wouldn't want to be pressured and therefore don't pressure him. Tell him that you feel like your relationship is not progressing the way you would like and you need to know why that is. You do deserve to know this. This has been a year long commitment for you both and time is precious.
2006-11-04 22:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a great news! You have control on yourself and that too for a so long time. Moving forward may be dangerous. Its better you maintain statusco until you get married. Take care and look around, read painful stories of un-wed moms, kids whose fathers are not traceable and similar othsers. Therefore, be patient and keep on moral, ethical and selfrespect values alive.
2006-11-04 22:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, You should make the first move cause he may feel dat ur not ready and he doesn't want you to think dat all he want is sex! You should make the first move girl be a women step yo game up girl! Make the move wen you ready its time! And congrats on your long relationship!
2006-11-04 22:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by *~%D!v@l!Ou$%~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on your age
and his.....if you two were
old enough for a real serious
get down to it-this is the rest of our
life relationship...you wouldnt be asking
so i am going to anwser according to your
problem.
DONT make the move.
guys dont like it when girls get in controll
[usually] i would suggest you give him clues
and once again depending on your ages
some relationships dont need all of that yet
take it slow..but if he dosent make a move
anytime soon you need to talk to him.
IF YOU reallllllyyy love this boy...dont break
up with him because he wont kiss you
and if you and him are really connected
talking to him about little things like this
wont be hard!
GOOD LUCK!
<3-ASH
2006-11-04 22:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by miss_ash020 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it has been a year..you need ask him what is the issue that he hasn't tried to kiss you..sometimes it does take time for them to get the courage...it took my ex 8 dates to even try to kiss me..ask him though..it might not be as bad as you think.
2006-11-04 23:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to him. ask him where he thinks ur relationship is goin and if he doesnt know or he doesnt answer u then i say break up with him but if he says something that u wanted to hear then that would be the perfect time to kiss him. good luck! ; )
2006-11-04 22:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Ahead, Its About Time- But Only If Your Ready. =) Good Luck! and Congrats on your long relationship!!
2006-11-04 22:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋