My daughter plays soccer and there are 10 girls on her team. Their last game is next Saturday. Yesterday I was out doing some errands and passed a sports restaurant that her coach and his wife enjoy. I decided (on my own) to get a $50 gift certificate to give to the coach next week. Today at soccer I told the parents about it and asked if everyone wanted to chip in $5. All but 3 did - they don't think it's necessary to give him a gift - although I disagree (since he is doing it for free - he is one of the players uncles and a great coach), that is their opinion.
My question is - when I present the gift certificate next week in a card, should I just sign it from the team or write the individual players names down who did chip in? Thanks for your help :)
2006-11-04 13:22:29 · 26 answers · asked by hotmomma 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sign it from the team. After all, you didn't ask the team in advance if they wanted to give a gift certificate. Also, it is not exactly in the spirit of an end-of-season gift to try to make a point or embarrass people by leaving their names off a gift card.
And Erika S is right! Have ALL the girls sign it individually. That would make it a nicer memento, and it's correct that the girls are not at fault for their parents not wanting to chip in.
2006-11-04 13:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question. I think just sign it from the team unless the girls would like to each sign it. It is only $15 but I get the point. Your going to have to either take the high road and sign as if all chipped in or low road and list each person who chipped in. I wonder if the others don't have the $5 to give. Always error on the side of goodness and kindness.
2006-11-04 21:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would write from those that chipped in, or you could even ask those that did contribute to write a few personal words on the card then he will know who its from.
I appreciate that this is a tricky one, Ive been there before and you want to be fair but also not petty dont you. I would get the contributers to sign and then its being fair and wont look like you have excluded for some other reason.
Nice thought by the way :)
2006-11-05 06:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is the parents who decided not to contribute, and not the girls, why not have the girls sign a card and just forget about the parents' signatures? You did this on your own, and it was good of six of the other parents to chip in, but don't make an issue of it.
2006-11-05 00:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most mature thing to do here is to just sign it "from the team." He doesn't need to know that three of the parents didn't think he deserved it. BTW, that was nice of you to do that for the coach, and I know he'll appreciate the gift certificate.
2006-11-04 21:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would sign it with the individual players whose parents contributed.
I know - I have had this same thing happen to me time and time again - and after awhile you get sick of it - especially when it happens to be the same people over and over again.
So give the ones credit who contributed, and let the chips fall where they may on the ones who didn't.
2006-11-05 03:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Karla R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it's not fair, but it's not the time to get petty and ugly. Have ALL the girls sign it and just maybe if the non-donators are there they may slip you a few bucks on the side after.
Remember, the kids have no control over the parents, you know they (girls) appreciated what he did and that's what really matters. It was very thoughtful of you for doing this.
2006-11-04 21:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥alsmom♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was a gift to the coach from the parents, I'd say no way! But the children whose parents said no to a donation probably are as thankful to their coach as those whose parents said yes. They'd be hurt if their names were left off.
2006-11-04 21:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by vita64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely have all the girls sign it individually--just because their parents didn't contribute doesn't mean the girls should be singled out from a memento (the card) that the coach may keep for years.
2006-11-04 21:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Erika S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say just sign it from the team. It's just 5 dollars each. There is no point in being petty and calling attention to the ones who didn't feel he deserved a gift.
2006-11-04 21:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋