What should I do?

Question

Hello listeners and helpers! I seem to have a lot of problems that are escalating into one big mess!

-I've been out of work for awhile and now starting to worry again. Parts of me think it feels good not working especially at a job I can't stand, but then another part of me feels guilty and my money is dwindeling down. I've just been worrying that I'll never find a job I truly love and will have to work at doing something I despise until I retire.

-Not feeling confident in myself. When I go out in public, I do not have that 'not care what other people think' mentality and that blows my self-esteem.

-Having no really good friends. I lost touch with many of them when they went off the college.

-Either I'm changing or members of my family are changing/growing apart because they all seem in their own world.

-All I do is go on the puter or watch television all day. To some that might sound relaxing, but is it possible to go crazy from doing only this?

What to do?

I've worked at mainly office jobs, but I can't imagine doing that the rest of my life, until I retire. That's the only work experience I have got and have no degree, so I'm kinda nervous!

I used to have a little bit more confidence than I do now, but I wish I was one of those people who were confident most of the time. I was very shy growing up and haven't really changed.

Thanks I hope we both change our lives for the better soon too!

Answer 1

i feel the same way.
i havent had a job for about a month now. i have been working for the past 6 years (since i turned 16) and it really depresses me to not have a job, and money. i know what you are saying about the fear of finding a job that isnt horrible. i have worked at lots of different jobs, and nothing has ever made me happy.

i have zero self confidence i know waht you are saying

i lost all my friends when i moved 3 months ago!!

i actually thing im depressed and per recomendations from other yahoo answers answerers i am going to a therapist. maybe u should do the same. i really dont know. i just wanted to let you know that you arent alone. and hopefully both of our lives will make a turn around soon!!!!

Answer 2

I suggest you go to a career counseling center come Monday morning. There, ask if you can take tests to see what you not only are good at, but what you are suited for in the long term. You say you went to college, what was your major? Is it something you want to pursue?

Work should be enjoyable, doing what you love and what brings you an income can be had, you just need to figure out what that is. Maybe you might need different training or open your mind to something totally new. Whatever, you will know what it is when you see it. Explore this in depth, you won' t regret it.

Your self-esteem is down because when you loose a job that takes a lot out of you, but you can pick yourself up and move on now. Make sure you are actively looking for what your purpose is daily. No matter what, make sure you do that. Get out and walk or get some other exercise to keep you active physically which will help mentally.

You sound intelligent, I know you can set yourself on a different path that will change your life for the better. Go for it girl!

Answer 3

Sounds like you have been off work too long and need to get back into the world and off the couch. I have been there too and I know once I got back to work I started feeling better about myself. As for your happiness with your job. You may have to settle for now at a so so job but I would suggest maybe going to school and getting a degree in something that would make you happy. I think that too may help boost your self esteem. You may want to consider getting some counseling that too could help with the self esteem. Remember only you have the power to change things in your life. Good luck to you and get away from the TV and computer soon before you get too depressed.

Answer 4

My advice is: go to the psicologyst and tell him/her everything you feel in your life, your problems and perhaps you can see a change about you. I go to the psicologyst for my stammering.

Good luck!!!!
Gordi

Answer 5

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