Is this normal, well I am a overweight so I blame it on that. I just want to give up hoping that I will find true love. I honestly think there isn't anyone out there for me. What do men find in women, besides being in shape and all that?
2006-11-04 12:52:21 · 27 answers · asked by ~*StarryEyedSurprise*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not "normal." But what does that matter? That's just the top of a bell curve plot. Means nothing.
I don't think it is exclusively about being overweight; there are plenty of boys and men who like heavy girls. Problem is, their reasons for this preference are not often very good, and your un-kissed state is more likely because you are too choosy to fall for someone who wants you mostly because you seem especially vulnerable.
So getting into as good a shape as you reasonably can would be valuable. But getting to know men just as people, with no "dating" situation attached, could also serve you well. Get involved in a club or group, do volunteer work, get involved in politics or religion. Then the guys you meet will automatically have something in common with you, and you will have a serious advantage when it comes to getting to know them. If a man comes to appreciate you for non-sexy reasons, he can get close enough to notice that (a) you really are a sensuous woman, and (b) you don't look so bad after all.
People's looks change as you get to know them. Ones you thought were beautiful who turn out to have lousy personalities will also look less attractive after awhile. People who are not all that good looking who turn out to have lovable personalities start to look better all the time.
Add to this the fact that you may be harder on yourself regarding your looks than a man would be, and you have lots of chances for true love to find you. After all, 21 is still very, very young.
2006-11-04 13:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look life comes at you fast and we are all turning in circles trying to find out where life has gone. I'm 23 and fell in love with this guy and we are complete opposites and it all comes in time. Don't give up. look there is always a silver lining to every situation. You are not a mother at the age of 21 and don't have to deal with any of the things that girl these days deal with. Love is something that everybody looks for but be patient and it will come to you. Dating and all the other stuff that comes along with it is about finding the ONE person for you and being with them until death. this world has so carelessly past that by. Live life and love will find you.
2006-11-04 21:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by jrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are guys that are looking for women that came straight out of Maxim magazine, but then there are normal guys that want the same thing us women want. They want someone who can they can relate to and enjoy their time with. There is someone out there for everyone.
Confidence is a turn on for either sex. I had a boyfriend when I was younger and he had red hair and freckles. To everyone else he probably seemed plain. I however had the biggest crush on him. I think he never noticed a freckle on his skin. He was so self assured. Another thing I liked the freckles and I am sure that there isn't just one, but lots of men out there who likes curvy women. So as far as your weight, carry yourself high and flaunt it.
To be honest 21 is probably not with in the normal age for a first kiss especially in the year 2006, but everyone needs to go at their own pace. You are very young and it will happen. Try going out with friends to meet guys or yahoo singles.
Take care and God Bless.
2006-11-04 21:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, relax. I was 30. I have been overweight since grade school and guys looked at me as either a friend or someone to pick on. There is a guy out there for you. I thought the same thing. I saw all my girlfriends get married, having kids.... I took matters into my own hands and tried online dating. And you know whats funny? The guy I met, at a national dating service.... he lived across the street from me. It's four years later and we are engaged/promised to each other now. Don't give up.
A real man, one not into just sex, will see you are beautiful and will be interested in ALL of you. Guys want someone who listens to them, makes them laugh, alot of the same stuff women look for,even if they don't always admit it. Keep in mind, guys your age right now are still mostly very immature.
Relax and give it time. Your someone is out there looking for you to.
2006-11-04 21:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by desdinova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overweight women is kinda a deal breaker for me personally, but I Know others that like larger women.
Other then looks, What I find attractive is an independent women. One that will allow me to be myself, and not try to control me. She has to have a sense of humor, and not be a racist.
2006-11-04 20:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being over weight doesn't have to do anything with u being kissed. i know tons of overweight chicks that have boyfriends. maybe because u are shy, and just don't go out as much. try hanging with friends and flirting a little bit more. u'll find true love, don't worry :)
2006-11-04 20:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone who will love you, don't give up and if being overweight kept people from having relationships over half of us would be alone! Join a church group and find some nice people. Keep your chin up, someone is out there for you.
2006-11-04 20:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it....no biggie......and who cares whats normal? im effin crazy and i love it.......
forget about your weight, its not a big deal. its gonna happen for you. believe it. you just have to be patient. some guy is gonna come along and sweep you off your feet. just have confidence and it will show. believe you deserve to be kissed, and others will see it too. just remember you are special, beautiful, sexy, and wonderful.........you just have to let people see it.
personally, im a sucker for sweethearts. a nice smile and a kind heart will totally floor me. i also find intelligence and humor to be a big turn on.
never give up. its gonna happen. it would be a terrible loss if you took your heart away from all the guys on this planet.
2006-11-04 21:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress! You just haven't met the right person yet. If someone is only going to go out with you because you are in shape, then they're rubbish, and don't deserve to go out with you, or kiss you!
It will happen, don't worry about that!
2006-11-04 20:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by jacintamusiclover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you are 21, a bar always inhibits the most reluctant of souls, not all men are attracted to skinny anorexic models. of course, there is nothing wrong with exercise and dieting, it's not only for looks, it's for your health and not to mention your self esteem. i am sure you have a beautiful heart and personality but don't be so quick to give it away.
2006-11-04 20:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋