i doubt that im in love after only 2 months... but how do you know the real difference, they seem so similar, im assuming it is still infatuation..?
2006-11-04 12:34:28 · 23 answers · asked by re33b9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So if i really do care for her... thats no longer infatuation? i dont want to tell her i love her (which im still unsure) until i know that is what im feeling, i was just wondering about the true signs..
2006-11-04 12:37:41 · update #1
well infatuation is more like an obsession...when problems start to arise and you cant deal with them and you just bail outta the relationship than its more of an infatuation. and when you are in love you just know it and don't doubt that feeling.
2006-11-04 12:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I met my husband I had already dated around quite a bit, but when I first looked into his eyes I had this feeling I had never felt before. I wanted to spend ALL my time with him and when we were together, the whole would just disappeared! After 15 years I still love him more than any other! When you are infatuated with someone, I don't think the feelings are returned by the other person and love is undeniable between the two of you. Never settle for anything less!
2006-11-04 20:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are under the age of 20, it is probably just infatuation.
The difference lies in truly knowing each other, being intimate about many things (not just sexually---that does not even have to be happening at all with true love), and accepting each other for the way you are: good & bad alike. It is being willing to put their needs first, not because you feel unworthy, or hope to be rewarded by him or her, but because you truely want to please your partner, merely for the pleasant feelings it will give them.
Love is something that develops over longer periods of time (possibly years, but certainly more than a couple months!), and is harder to interfere with it's development...not easily threatened, and very comfortable. While infatuation develops rapidly, seems so very romantic, full of exageration ("I'd DIE for you, Honey!"), but seems so unsure of itself: it is easily threatened by outsiders. When infatuated, one tends to be blind to the faults (or just makes note to self: "I'll just fix that about them later!"), instead of accepting them as part of the total package, which, when all weighed out between the pros & cons, comes out strongly in favor of sticking with the person. True love loves so completely, it loves even the negative aspects of a person.
Do his farts still smell sweet to you?
2006-11-04 20:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by grapejuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you can think about is getting her into bed then it's infatuation. If you care about who she is as a person, do things for her because you know it makes her happy even if you don't really want to, want to spend every waking moment with her and would be happy just holding hands, could see yourself having a future with this woman, would do anything you could for her or even die for her then it's love. Hope this helps.
2006-11-04 20:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love started out as infatuation, and love is more lasting.
If you are thinking more about the good of the other party, and working together to achieve a fulfilling, lasting relationship, I guess you can call it love.
Of course, if you feel that what you are experiencing is love, then love it must be.
2006-11-04 20:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by chyrellos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no real difference sexual love is a form of infatuation.
Hovever there is a difference between a spiritual love and infatuation. People, especially parents often call a love relationship infatuation because they do not approve of it.
2006-11-04 20:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Vermin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
actually - it sounds as though you are simply accelerating your "interest" in developing the relationship.
infatuation is usually reserved for a situation where you are not actually dating, but there 'seem' to be signals back and forth that encourage continued contact.... and you read into things that which is not really there.
lust would be if you are interested in a person to the point that nothing matters except the sex
love would be the caring, satisfied feeling that this relationship is it, that it will work, that you are BOTH in agreement regarding your future plans and that you are BOTH satisfied that your lives together will be fulfilled, constructive, mutually supportive and involved with each other in every way - excluding all others.
2006-11-04 20:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, I can say that I was in love with my boyfriend after meeting him. So don't put a time limit on it. Now I didnt know I was in love, I was.. confused and scared of the vulneraility that love gives. Our first month wasn't... full blown love but I knew the makings of it where there and he told me he felt it too..
Infatuation is more about the physical. You like being with him but... you don't really accept all of him.
Love is about acceptance and vulnerability. You allow yourself, your fears and all of the vulnerabilites of your heart. You accept the other person and ALL of their flaws. Love blooms, but its work to keep it once you begin to see the other person for who they truely are.
2006-11-04 20:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is hard to find. Infatuation is often considered as love and I have been guilty of that lots of times! Don't be so gullible as I have been, have a good head on your shoulders, don't just let your heart speak for you. I have done that and have been hurt so many times. I am STILL looking for love and love to me would be meeting someone, of course there would be a special attraction there, you wouldn't be human if there wasn't, but even if he/she is ugly or something you don't like physically about them, get to know them first. Love is inside, not on the outside! A beautiful person on the outside that doesn't measure up on the inside is VERY ugly to me and it shows. You don't even think they are beautiful anymore. The ugly one, or one that you don't think is attractive to you. Get to know them, get to know their innermost feelings, if it coincides with yours, and you feel an attraction with this person, then it could lead to love. I think love ought to be slow and I am guilty of acting too fast. You will think of this person all the time, want to be with this person all the time, will want to do "special" things for this person, if its only buying him/her a trinket that doesn't cost much. Its the thought that counts. If the price means anything to them, dump them. You will feel a tingly feeling all over when you hear his/her voice on the phone, if this leaves you really fast, then its not love in my book. You will want to do things for each other to make the other person feel good and to boost their spirits and their morale. Of course everyone needs their own space sometimes, so don't be a clinger. Someone that talks about the past all the time, especially about their ex's, then they are still carrying garbage. A relationship should start out anew, with no past, just new beginnings. Make your own past that just includes you and whoever you love. (children, pets, parents). A couple that loves each other, sitting together without saying a word and feeling comfortable, not feeling like, "what am I going to say next?" Love should be comfortable like that and just a light touch that makes you feel love and tingly, without thinking of the bedroom, that is love. Or that is MY version of love.
Thanks for asking my opinion
2006-11-04 21:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Smokeygirl49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
Each moment of a happy lover's hour is worth an age of dull and common life.
When you feel cold and warm at the same time,
when you read over the same line for the tenth time,
when your heart and thoughts somehow appear to rhyme,
and when a simple name conquers your whole mind,
then you are in deep trouble my friend... you are in what they call, "love".
2006-11-04 20:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋