Shy girl... popular guy. Will it ever work?

Question

There is a guy at my play practice who is really nice and cute. He's one of the leads, and I'm in the chorus. We are in a lot of scenes together. I've known him for a few years now from previous plays, but it's been a really long time since I've seen him last. He's a year older than me- I'm fifteen, he's sixteen. We go to different schools. I really wanna be closer to him, but he has so many people around him all the time and I am kind of reserved (always with my two friends there). Any ideas? We all already have each other email's and numbers, so I can't ask him for either. Any advice or suggestions are loved. I don't know if I should just hang back and let him come to me, but do you think he ever will? We talk when we can- it's never awkward of anything. Sometimes we catch each other's eye and then we both look away. But I don't know if that's just coincidence.

I know I have posted this a few times, but it's hard to get good advice. I'm also self-concious... just thought I would say

We do talk and when we do, it's not awkward. But it's usually after play practice when everyone else has left. I'm really open and bouncy when no one else is around. On Thursday I complemented him by saying: "I didn't know cute guys could play piano" and he smiled and said "I guess we can."

I'm not exactly 'skinny' but I'm not fat either. Uh, I'm fifteen. I don't drink. Duh.

But I have to see him everyday because of play practice and like I said, we have a lot of scenes together. We are both really active in community theater and it won't be the last play we do together this year...

So if I get rejected, it'll be... awkward. Won't it?

Last week or something, I was wearing a sweatshirt from a play and he saw it and began to sing the love song duet... It was cute. I joined in, but then he had to work on a scene

Answer 1

ok. I'm a few years older than you, but if there one thing i wish i could change about my life would be this. I wish i had taken more chances.

If he likes you GREAT

If not you'll get over it.

But unless you try you'll never know.

Go get him girl!

Answer 2

U said U posted this a few times I must to have missed them.

Anyway they say opposite attracts. It sounds like he too may be a little shy.
U say ur shy and that u want to be close to him, well why don't u start with send him cute emails and hint to him that u like him, but in a playful way. That way he will sense that u like him and he can sned u emails back, hinting to u that he likes you too.

The reason I say hint is because u said ur shy, and that way u can hint or lead him to the fact that u may like him, he'll will send u a email letting u know that he like u

The cute emails is becausae Im sure u being shy it's easier to kinda express ur self over the email.

And the hints u can send is

" Hey U, hows my friend today"

" Hi old friend,

" Hey cutie how ya doing"

something or anything thats cute but not too forward.

He will get the hint and he may evn ask u how u feel about him, if he does ask him to tell u how he feels about u 1st

Or u can always email him that thwere a guy u have known for awhile and u kinda like this guy and as a guy tell u how u can go about leeting the guy know how u feel.

" that way he will tell u how , if he ask who the guy is just say something like
Oh he's someone I like and enjoy being around but ur a little to shy to come right out and tell him how u feel becaue u don't know if it will cahnge the relationship of ur friendship with the guy. And u rather not say who he is just yet until ur sure he feels the same about u


Good Luck Sweetie

I hope it works out in ur favor, u and he may be building up to a relationship that could lead to u and he being a couple and end up getting married. Then u can tell ur kids how shy u were when u know they're father in high school =-)

Answer 3

Sounds like the old scenario.....will he or won't he?

Best thing to do. DON'T BRING YOUR FRIENDS. Just having them with you can intimidate a guy.He might be worried that the two might get in the way....once they get giggling (and they will...LOL) he'll run off in embarrassment.

Find a time when he will be by himself. If you have an email address, just email him that you'd like to get together sometime. Send an email card....nothing heavy....just cute. If you know he's interested in something...do a little research. Make an effort to show interest, a lot of guys like that.

As far as being self conscious, just be yourself. At your age most boys and girls are worried about what others think. If after all this you still are friends....that's not so bad. At least the tension of wondering will be over....for both of you...:-)

This advice is from a guy with a stepdaughter. I gave her the same advice...she tried it and now been with the guy for almost a year. I hope it works for you too

Answer 4

Don't give up, keep talking to him. You open up to him when you guys are alone, so maybe you get nervous when lots of people are around. If you don't like being around groups of people, then suggest you guys hang out outside of the plays. I know you don't go to the same school, but maybe on the weekends you guys can go to the movies or out to eat somewhere, the mall, you know. Find out what your schedules are like and plan a day out together, get to know each other better outside of the plays. If things go well on the first outing, hang out more often and let it progress naturally. Maybe you both will be able to admit how you feel for each other more easier than before.

Answer 5

I really think you and he LIKE each other already! I think you are both too shy to do something about it. You say you can email him. Do it a lot! That will tell him you find him interesting. Keep it light until he asks you to go out first. Since you both know each other a while, it can work out well. Don't let the ball drop-go for it but let him think HE is the one after you. Be his good friend and I think it will blossom. Encourage him in his school work, his sports, go to a game he is playing in, ask him advice on something,etc... Make him feel he is important,smart, handsome, etc..... Good Luck!

Answer 6

of course it could work just send him emails I am sure you are much more vocal over the net. You have the perfect situation since you go to different schools and everyone is not in your business. just send him a couple of forwards and then you wil have something to discuss or send him a line telling him that you want to talk to him and he is always surrounded.
don't over do it though. you already have stuff in common.

Answer 7

Kind of same thing is happening to me except I didn't get his number nd email... theres some brownie points, um... if the staring happens a lot its not a coincidence. If he really likes you he'll come to you... and if he doesn't maybe Prince Charming is not him.

Answer 8

You gotta let him know. Send him an email. If you don't do anything then you'll get nowhere. Some guys like shy girls.

Answer 9

if you are shy and dont want to approach him but other girls do, chances are they will get him before you will. it sucks trying to open up and talk to a guy you dont know well, especially if you are shy, but thats the only way you will get what you want.

Answer 10

It is possible. Far more likely than a shy guy & popular girl.

But still pretty unlikely.