I am in love with someone who used to be a sex addict. He has had sex with over 300 women in his lifetime, seen prostitutes and at one time he cheated on his girlfriend by having sex with 3 to 4 different women a week for hire from Craiglist. He has had sex with shemales and gone to sex clubs. He is a charmer picked up women at bars and at work and on the subway. He still surfs pornography on a regular basis. Since meeting me, he has gone to therapy and say s that both our relationship and his love for me have changed his life. He vows never to cheat and claims that he realizes that easy sex was a way to fill an emptiness he didn’t know he felt at the time. He wants us to marry me and have children. I adore him, the sex is amazing and he knows me better than anyone but I am afraid to be overly optimistic about his ability to change. I dont know if I should pursue this relationship.
2006-11-04 12:23:52 · 4 answers · asked by CCalias 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Theres only one way 2 find out... dont make any major commitements (kids/marriage) for the moment.. if its meant 2 b its meant 2 b u may get hurt in the end but you'll be stronger & wiser & u wont spend the rest of ur life wondering wat if
2006-11-04 12:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by prettygal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this one. You can give him the benefit of the doubt, he knows he has a problem and is seeking help for it. You can accompany him to therapy and learn more about his problem and learn about ways to keep your relationship strong and healthy so that he doesn't feel the need to stray. Therapy isn't always just for troubled relationships it can help strenghten the healthy ones too and seems to me he cares and I am going to go out on a limb and say he was very honest with you - how else did you find out all the information? As with any addiction, he has to cease all sexual avenues, that means NO PORN, No magazines, no nothing relating to sex other than your relationship. Once an addict always an addict, if the temptation is there it might cause him to fall off the path. Be careful this is a lifetime problem he has and doesn't go away without continuous work on it - it is just like drugs/alcohol or gambling!
2006-11-04 12:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, as a prevalent rule don't have a lot of religion in guy's means to alter. although, my very own very own adventure demonstrates that that's a danger. As a youthful guy i've got engaged in sexual intercourse that i might bypass by potential of on the instant based on the certainty that making love is so lots greater useful than merely having intercourse. the key is that his sincerity and dedication must be guaged, and not understanding the guy would not enable me to make that decision. What i'm going to declare is that out of your description, you have a dating with a number of features and that should no longer be discarded without merely reason. the different element it somewhat is noteworthy, is that your guy seems to be brutally truthful. i would not have given you all that incriminating advice approximately myself. supply him a raffle, yet do no longer enable your self to be blinded by potential of love.you may perhaps finally end up happy which you made that decision.
2016-12-28 12:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know and everybody know it's not going to work,sooner or later he is out with who knows what on the street,where is he now do you even know.move on be for you get hurt to many men out there for you to be with this cheater and what ever,that is just dirty,he may have no telling what from all he has done.
2006-11-04 12:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋