to ask me to come to the hospital! I haven't been talking to my mum, dad or sister for over 4 months. They drive me insane to the point of dispare. I cut them from my life to save myself. Now my grandma was differant, we talked all the time. She understood me. She told me years ago she had made me one of the two executors of her will, along with my mum. Now I don't know what to do or how to cope! I simple can't make myself ring my mum. I am dreading the funeral and having to do the will thing.
Is there a site that offers advice? I have been waiting for weeks to see a local counceller and I can't wait any longer. I need to talk to someone so much.
Any positive advise?
2006-11-04 12:22:40 · 7 answers · asked by red260z 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly, they are probably processesing things in their own way. Don't take it personally. Talking to a counselor is an excellent idea.
2006-11-04 12:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by GratefulDad 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Red,
First I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmom. My Grandfather passed away in September. I feel for you.
Now would be a good time to make amends with your family. You will be surprised at how much strength and support you get from them. So what they drive you insane...that's what family does!
I visited my grandparents last year. It was the last time I saw my Grandfather. Everything was normal, you know? Grandmom made breakfast for me (grits, sausage and gravy...Southern family), and Grandpop gave me $10 (I'm a successful engineer). We all sat outside and talked about everything in the world.
That's my last memory of him.
I say all that to say, I did not go to the funeral, and everyone understood why. But I'm very close to my family.
Your Grandma is gone, Red, and I am so sorry. But you still have parents and a sis.
2006-11-04 21:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I was 11 I found out that my maternal grandmother had died TWO YEARS before I found out. She had been hospitalized for a very long time and in those days most hospitals did not encourage children to visit. I didn't know for two years of her death...
I suggest you call your family, if your grandmother made you and your mother co-executors you BOTH will have to be there, you need to grow up and bury your differences with your family, or else let them handle everything while you stay out of it
2006-11-04 20:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry. I can not think of a sight, but I just wanted to say that I was sorry. May you have lots of good memories of your grandma.
2006-11-04 20:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by mrt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to think, she is in pre-heaven and she is watching you. She wants you to be happy. Try to put a smile on that face. Sorry to hear about your grandma.
2006-11-04 20:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger person and call your mom because she is hurting to ,this was her mother and she will need you to be strong for her and stay strong for you to, dont waste away your time fighting because has you have learend life it to short
2006-11-04 20:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Please call your mama try to keep it civil for your grandmother sake! Please call! Its time for healing now!
2006-11-04 20:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋