I am 15 and I have no one in this world! My mom married this guy and they had a baby together so I am left out. I hate all of them! My mom says I am a disappointment becuase I sneak out of the house to do what I want, I smoke, drink, and get bad grades. Well I thought her and my stepdad would be gone for the day so I brought back a guy and we had sex..They walked in on us! I don't know why they had a problem with it..It was in my own bed..Anyways, she says that she can't believe I lost my virginity to that guy! So I screamed at her I didn't! I have been having sex since I was 12 which is true since that is what I do since I get bored because guys show me attention..Well now she tells me I need help if I want to lie about it! I am not lying I have been giving guys what they need..Whether they are young, old, married, gay whatever! So should I have told her this or should I tell her I was just lying?
2006-11-04 12:05:46 · 14 answers · asked by ILene Dover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart you need to get some help. Having sex with a bunch of different men is not the way to get attention. It's a good way to get something that will kill you. You did the right thing telling your mom and I hope she finds you some help. You need some self confidence and you need to understand that you can gain attention for being who you are. You don't have to have sex with people to be liked.
2006-11-04 12:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me, you need to stop having sex. No matter what the reason is. I know you feel left out but if you continue your pattern you are going to feel cheap and used. People are going to look down on you eventually. Get back your self respect and act like a proper young lady! You are only 15 and you have got your whole life ahead of you. Be proud of yourself and your body, eventually you will find a young man in 3 or 4 years that will take your heart. Then you can give yourself to a proper relationship and be proud of it. Besides, the way you are going, you could get a life threatening illness (STD) like Aids, so respect yourself and change your life for the better, NOW! Also study hard and improve those grades, OK?
2006-11-04 20:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child, you need to stop this slow destruction. Don't you think you are worth more? Don't you look in the mirror and tell yourself you can make a difference in this world? You are wasting your life and hopping into bed with some so called "boyfriend" at the age of 15 - and you know you're only doing this to hurt your mother. Well guess what? You should sit down and make a plan of action. What do YOU want to BE? Where do YOU want to be five years from tonight? Find your passion and get the education it takes to become who you are meant to be.
2006-11-04 20:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry you are so lonely and thinking that having sex will fill the void. what you need is counseling and your whole family needs counseling. you are crying out for help and your self esteem is very low. you need to realize you are an important person worthy of self respect. you are abusing yourself to get back at your mom, who you feel has abandoned you with her new family and you might still be angry at your natural father...did he leave, too?
you giving yourself to guys for attention is a sign that you are confusing love with sex. part of the fault is your mother's because she is more concerned about the lying than about WHY you are feeling so sad and lonely and making poor choices. I don't think your mom must be the best role model. talk to your school counselor if he/she is any good and tell them the whole story. have them help you find a good therapist and go once a week until your self esteem rises up enough that you feel good about yourself and use your power in a positive way...
you don't have to give guys what THEY need you have to give yourself what YOU need. you are worth it. Good luck!
2006-11-04 20:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by outtahere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it may feel like sex is the only way to get attention, IT IS NOT. If you're honest and open to other ppl, they will give you their attention. You need to stop the sex before you get an STD or something. And be honest to your mom. She cares about you...or else you wouldn't be living there.
2006-11-04 20:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Beebee07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason your doing this is because your mom doesnt give you attention that you need thats why you have sex thats why i started having sex b/c i never got along with my dad so i know how your feeling but just think about it this way what would you do if your daughter was doing this? if you said you didnt care than you have issues so please dont tell her it was a lie go get some help
2006-11-04 20:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by latina_lachula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some help. You are obviously using sex to fill the void your parents have left in your life. If you want to do adult things then you should start behaving like one and talk to your mother. Then get yourself to a counselor and a doctor, because God only knows what disease you have contracted.
2006-11-04 20:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by goaliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your family need help. See a therapist now. Do you want HIV/AIDS?. Hepatitis c or any other STD? don't even think that a baby would be good for you. Ya need help. Can you talk to your dad?
2006-11-04 20:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!! Keep having sex, but dont tell your mom. I think your cute and i will have sex with you also. If you only new the things i cand do to you.
2006-11-06 13:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u shouldnt sleep around w/ any1. u will wind ^ pregnant w/ a brat u dont want. but u should tell her she ditched u so now u want som1 2 luv u.
2006-11-04 20:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by J@YDI$$L3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋