ANYTHING we need he always calls his mom or grandmother for money and it's wrecking my nerves...we've been together for 3 yrs and we have a kid
2006-11-04 11:53:10 · 13 answers · asked by Monique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has a job and I've told him that he needs to grow up, but it stops for a while, but sooner or later or when it gets rough there he goes!
2006-11-04 11:59:31 · update #1
Monique, I can see where this might bother you.
On the other hand, if mom and grandma are in his corner, and they are willing to help, why not? Much better than the reverse, where they just cut you off.
If his asking for help bothers you then maybe you both should sit down and see how much his requests amount to. Set a limit. Anything over the limit and he has to provide for himself. You can break this down to a monthly limit. Then at least he has guidelines and he's not randomly tapping other people for whatever comes up.
Let mom and grandma in on the plan.
I understand the goal is to be independent but sometimes young parents need help. You are blessed to have such wonderful support. They will appreciate that you two took them into consideration.
2006-11-04 23:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not like it then leave him. It is obvious to me that he will always run to mom & grandma when he needs any thing. They are not doing him any favors supporting him like that. My brother was done that way and he is still to this day doing it. (he's 43 now) Just to prove they will not quit giving him what he wants. You can expect the rest of your life with this guy to be this way AND HE IS TEACHING YOUR KID TO DO THE SAME THING. So if you do not want to support your kid threwout his adult hood and your old age find someone who can teach him the value of working for a living.
2006-11-04 12:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it, and be grateful. His family is your family now, set your pride aside and ask for help when you need it. Everybody needs a little help sometimes. At 22 you are barely out of college plus you have a child to support. Look at it this way, they are doing it for their grandbaby. Next time, say "thank-you Mom. We really appreciate this and anything you need from us, just ask."
2006-11-04 14:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he needs to grow up. Seriously, 22 and still asking for money.
2006-11-04 11:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by I.love.it.how.you.make.me.feel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job
2006-11-04 11:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by GiantGreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 07:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to grow up and learn how to support his own family. and ask him what kind of example is he setting for his child always running to mom for help
2006-11-04 11:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you boyfriend to get a job,it's not your family responsible to take care you are him,he should be ashamed where is his pride as a man..
2006-11-04 12:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get a job or a better paying job, this isn't something that he should be teaching his child! sorry , but good luck!
2006-11-04 11:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by magdalina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get a job that makes enough money or tell him how u feel about it
2006-11-04 12:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋