I'm looking for opinions. A co-worker told me recently that I will never get a man because I own my own house, my own car, travel all the time and "there is nothing for a man to give you." I am about to build my second house, and now I'm wondering.. should I keep quiet about my success? I'm only average looking, so I thought it was a plus that I was smart and successful. Should I try to keep my financial success a secret?
2006-11-04 11:25:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is your co-worker out of their mind?!?!? there is absolutely nothing wrong with women owning property. If you were a man who had a house and a car would this even be an issue? if a man is so insecure that he can't handle you being successful, he wasn't worth your time to begin with.
2006-11-04 11:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by melethana 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible that this 'co-worker' is very jealous of the fact that you are going after your dreams and doing what you want with your life. It's also possible that this co-worker is very miserable and is constantly comparing herself to you. You know the saying...misery loves company. She wants you to be miserable like she is. Another thing...it is very possible to have a man while owning your own house, land, car, business. This man needs to be confident and secure in himself first of all because you owned your own things before you will meet him. Don't keep quiet about your success. I'm sure that if she wasn't so busy hating, you could share with her how you got to your success. It is a plus that you are smart. You are taking care of yourself. Any man that comes into your life needs to also have respect of your things. You worked hard for them didn't you? So why will you give them up?
2006-11-04 11:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not so much keeping it a secret, but you also don't need to brag about it either. because this could also be a downfall. some men will only be with a lady because of what she has. there is nothing wrong with you being successful, that's great. and i don't agree with your friend. a real man does not offer a house, a car, or anything like that. a real man offers love and understanding and things like that.
2006-11-04 11:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is jealous. Be independant it is an admirable quality. I wouldn't flaunt my success or make someone else feel less successful, but really the right man won't will be happy that you aren't needy and dependant on him to provide for you. Besides you should be careful, there are plenty of men out there that would love to bleed you dry financially. I wouldn't advertise because of that.
2006-11-04 11:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your coworker sounds like June Cleaver living in the 1950's. I also own my own house and car and would never think of using a man to get my material possessions. You should be attracted to a man and a man attracted to you for the quality of the relationship you can build together. You don't need to downplay your success, you just need to attract your equal and then it won't matter. Your coworker is a loser!
2006-11-04 11:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later the "real" you will have to step forward. Don't change your life to impress anyone because you would only be putting up a false image which is no different than lying. "To thine own self be true" and the right person will connect with you when the time is right. Be proud of your success and continue living your life in the manner that suits you best.
2006-11-04 11:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are successful, you dont need to flaunt it. You will most likely attract the wrong kind of attention. If you want a man, ease into the relationship, and dont let him know that you are so well off, he might be intimidated. You'll be fine if you do that, just stay humble and down to earth. I think you'll find a man that will love you for who you are, not what you have in possessions. Good luck!
2006-11-04 11:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by overwhelmed85 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should keep quiet about your financial success if you are in an Asian country because the men are still pretty chauvinistic. But if you are in a more westernised society, more men there tend to treat women as equal. Men from Asian countries tend to get really intimidated because if they can't match up to you in terms of financial success and they'll feel like you are rubbing it in their faces.
I would advise you to use your wealth to look good and feel good on your own. At the end of the day, ANY woman can't depend solely on a man for support. You'll need to feel good on your own.
2006-11-04 11:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Keep it a secret only if you're looking for insecure guys : ) I know for a fact that there are guys who like independent, smart and successful women.
2006-11-04 11:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. If you're an affluent, self-reliant woman, why not show it? There's no reason to hide your success for dating's sake. There are plenty of men out there who are attracted to successful women. Tell your co-worker to MYOB. You don't deserve to be brought down just because you're single.
2006-11-04 12:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋