im dating this girl i love. and everything was going really great. her dad wasnt that bad.really we was doing great. i had sometimes with him and we had things in common. we had the same fav. football team and i helped him with his car. all he wanted was me to tell him when we would be back and where we was going and stuff but thats understandable and its not big deal.its been bout a year and lately hes been WAY to protective. i mean he past over protective. . im sick of it.i need some air. i feel like i cant make a move without him knowing. how do i get him to stop??how do i get him to understand that im not going to do anything bad with his daughter??
and for the ones thats going to say "let her go" or "find someone esle" im not going to do that i love her too much......
2006-11-04 11:23:40 · 14 answers · asked by countryman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way would I say give her up. It's obvious in your question that you care about her, especially saying that you're not going to do something bad with his daughter. I'm not sure I have an easy answer for this one, but it's good that your motives are honorable, and there must be a way you can let him know that.
I'm sure you've thought about this, but try to reconsider it again. A man prizes and cherishes and worries about his daughter the most. Some day you may come to realize this. I think if you become more understanding of this, and can show your patience with him, that he will realize that you are for real. If you get aggravated and mad, he may become even more protective, thinking you are up to no good. Hope this helped.
2006-11-04 11:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well man i just want to say its nice to see that you are not running the other way. Most guys would run for the hills rather than face their gfs dad, so props.to answer your question, i think the reason he is being so overprotective now verses when you two started dating, is, and this is not to be mean, but he probably didnt think it was going to go anywhere. i mean he probably thought that you were just another 2 week bf and she would move on. Well now that he knows that this relationship is for real, now he is afraid. Afraid he is losing his little girl and all her innocence. Lets face it, no dad wants to admit that their little girl is growing up and is able to make her own decisions. my advice, sit down and have a talk with her dad. Tell him that you love his daughter and would never hurt her. This will put his mind at ease about losing his little girl, but also makes you look very mature and grownup in his eyes.
2006-11-04 19:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by abbyhawaiianlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has said something that has made him look at you as the over barring boyfriend, too controlling. Maybe he feels ya'll are getting too serious and thinks his daughter is too young for that, Maybe he thinks ya'll need a breather to make sure you were meant to be together. It's hard to sit there and watch your Little girl keep the boyfriend all through school, up till Graduation. All her dreams of going to college shot out the window b/c he thought it was stupid. She finally went out and he went his own way and said they would just try it apart for a while....He ran off and got married right out of boot camp, just to get back at her....things are cool now, the guy and his wife comes over to visit once in a while, and my daughter is happily married and is expecting her first baby...Parents are strange people....but we do have our child's best interest at heart even if no one else does. Good Luck
2006-11-04 19:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tinabobsue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you really loved her you would understand her dad's feelings and know that just because you've been going out for a long period of time doesn't mean her father doesn't need to know where she is going, how long she will be there and when she will be back home. Until she is no longer living in his home he has EVERY right to be overprotective and to know what she is doing, HE is responsible for her. Either learn to deal with it and appreciate it or find a girl who's parents don't give a damn about her.
2006-11-04 19:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a typical Dad protecting his daughter. And being that the two of you have been together for over a year.. Dad is probably real nervous & knows its serious. You just need to let him know that his daughter means alot to you & that you won't do anything to hurt her.
2006-11-04 19:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a dad - my daughter is 24. Here's the deal:
All you guys are bad news. None of you are good enough for our daughters. We raised them to be lovely people, to be pure and good and kind. They are our breath. Long after you deadbeats have broken their hearts and thrown them away like trash, they'll still be our breath.
That's the deal. You don't have to understand it. I'm being really serious, and I'm getting tears in my eyes over my daughter (and the terrible relationship she is in) while I type this.
2006-11-04 19:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by asperens 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk with dad. Tell him exactly what you just told us. Talk with the lady first before doing so. -You both had common ground before and you should be able to talk to him. Do it at a common place like a restaurant. Not at his House. Stand up for you and your lady!!! But don't be a jerk about, he is still her father. He will and needs to respect you and your love for his daughter. KEEP IT A GENTLEMAN TO A FATHER GENTLEMAN conversation. Good luck BRO.
2006-11-04 19:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by mymack79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly for you, it is his job to protect his daughter. He has EVERY right to know where she is going, what she is doing when she gets there, when she is coming home. If you could not accept that, then you need to let her go and find someone who's father doesn't love his daughter enough to protect her.
2006-11-04 19:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember one thing....It's his baby girl no matter what! Depending on how much you love her, you'll have to be patient and try a little harder to make him see you are worthy of his daughter. As long as you have her, you will have him as well. Maybe you will understand when you have a baby girl of your own.
2006-11-04 19:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a Dads job,you will know that when you have a daughter,maybe he has seen something to make him think diffrent of you.
2006-11-04 19:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋