I'm getting married in a few months, but I do not want to get pregnant yet, and I do not use and will not use "the pill". So, would it be weird if I asked my guy to wear protection?
2006-11-04 11:22:52 · 21 answers · asked by IKnowWhoUAre! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why do you people always have to be so rude when responding to someone's question. I asking to get advice. Sheesh!
2006-11-04 11:30:10 · update #1
First off, how does he feel about having children so early in the marriage. I would think that if he agrees with you and knows how you feel about the "pill" then I think he would agrre to wearing protection. I take it you are a virgin and your wedding night is such a wonderful time for couples and using protection doesn't seem too romantic, but in your case I think it will be fine.
2006-11-04 11:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by yakity_one 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be weird to ask him to use protection...You should feel comfortable discussing this with him. If you don't, you need re-evaluate why you feel weird asking him to use a condom. I realize most guys don't "like" using them... but it's only for a little while... I am also a fellow bride, getting married in a couple months. My fiance and I discussed my going off the pill and what we would do in the mean time. He was cool with whatever I wanted him to do or should I say whatever WE do. If I felt weird to talk to him about this, I wouldn't marry him. Please don't think I'm being rude about this... I REALLY do not mean it that way. But he SHOULD follow your wishes on this. Even if he wanted a baby right away. He should follow your wishes because you're the one HAVING THE BABY!!! It should be on terms both of you can agree on. Good Luck!!
2006-11-04 23:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what many others have already said. If you aren't ready for a baby right now, then you should absolutely be using protection now, on the honeymoon, and until the second you are both prepared for children. I also agree, however, that you MUST discuss this! It's both of your marriage, and they will be YOUR children. So it should be a decision that you're both making together--not something that you should randomly have to ask him (or feel strange asking him) about when the time comes. Talk about it and be on the same page so you can ENJOY yourself instead of being worried about getting pregnant or if you're doing what everyone else does, etc. It's about YOU and your future husband--not what the rest of use may or may not have done on our honeymoons.
2006-11-04 20:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by azhikinggrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is perfectly fine for you to ask your man to use protection. I would imagine that this is something that you and him have talked about ... or will talk about before the big night. It is your choice not to go on the pill and I commend you for trying to figure out other ways to protect yourself, even though you are married, from not bringing a child that you and your future husband are not quite ready for. I think it is fine for you to ask him to wear a condom or see if you could get a female condom or some other form of protection made for females. There are several other options out there besides just having your future husband wear a condom. I hope this helps and good luck with everything.
2006-11-04 23:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's acceptable to use protection! It's not weird at all. If you don't want to be pregnant, it would be terribly disrespectful of him not to want to use a condom. It's your body that has to deal with pregnancy!
Here's a link to Planned Parenthood's site about birth control. I believe it discusses all forms of birth control available to you and the failure rates .
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/birth-control.htm
I'm not sure why you are uncomfortable with 'the pill' but, hormonal contraception is one of the most reliable forms of contraception out there. It's also quite safe and doesn't cause abortions! Keep an open mind and talk to your doctor. It might be the best option. I'm only saying this because I love the pill! I don't experience cramps during my period that is now very regular, optional (menstrual supression is safe) and my period is only 3 or 4 days long when I decide to have it.
2006-11-04 21:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitly something that needs to be discussed before the wedding. To many couples to day get married without discussing the future: including children.
You need to sit down with your fiance, discuss how many children you want and when you want to start having them - and then make a plan. If you are uncomfortable being on the pill, then you need to tell him that so he knows that he needs to use protection. You should also make an appointment with your doctor to discuss other forms of birth control that you may be able to use if your fiance does not want to always use protection.
2006-11-04 19:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only the couples that are trying to avoid a pregnancy use protection. I find it sad that you haven't discussed your choices about planning or preventing pregnancies before now -- please do this as soon as possible. Your future happiness in marriage depends HEAVILY on your ability to communicate with this man. Best of luck.....and since you asked........please use protection of some kind. Getting pregnant when you aren't even sure how to talk about sex is just not a good idea.
2006-11-04 20:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a topic that should have already been discussed between the two of you. Do not wait another moment. Sit down with your fiance and talk. Birth control is not 100% but without it you WILL get pregnant.
The thing that concerns me is that if the two of you have not discussed such an important matter, what other topics have you not covered before getting married? You might want to look into getting a little pre-marital counselling before making the trip down the aisle.
2006-11-04 19:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you're not on the pill and you're not wanting to get pregnant then yes some type of protection needs to be used. I'd make sure your guy is aware of your wishes so he's not offended.
Congrats on getting married!
2006-11-04 22:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get pregnant yet, why chance it. It only takes once, and sperm can live inside your body for 5-7 days. If I were you and didn't want to have kids, either go on the pill or use some other form of reliable birth control. To use nothing is irresponsible if you don' want a baby.
2006-11-04 19:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋