Im 22, I've only even had 1 GF (She asked me out) and we dated for a year. I don't really have any friends (some co-workers I hang out with is all). I don't really have any hobbies, so I can't use that as a way to meet more people. And I have a real social anxiety, Im never comfortable unless Im drunk/high. And I never have anything to say, even though I'd like to.
2006-11-04 11:11:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you have plenty of excuses...now, it's up to you how much longer you will let those excuses control your life.
2006-11-04 11:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll only be alone if you're afraid to be yourself around others while being clean and sober. A few questions you might want to think about answering at length are
1. What do you find satisfying, meaningful and enjoyable?
2. What is your moral code?
3. Are you a hard worker? What do you do to work hard?
4. What goals have you accomplished and how did you do it? What drove you to complete the goals?
5. What masks do you wear and why?
6. What do you look for in a friend?
7. What important friendships have you had and what made them important?
8. What are your spiritual beliefs?
9. What kind of a career do you desire?
10. What are your sexual morals?
11. What type of person do you want to spend your life with?
12. Look at yourself in the mirror and write down what you see.
13. Do you believe in yourself?
14. What are you doing to make your dreams come true?
15. How do your fears get in the way of your accomplishments?
16. What kind of image do you want to project to others?
17. Do you desire to improve the quality of your life and that of others'?
18. What are your thoughts about death and dying?
When you know the answers to these questions, you can best decide your search tactics and execute the search from there.
Hope all goes well
-Andrea
2006-11-04 19:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are still very young. I doubt you will be alone forever. Are you female? If so you should be focusing on a boyfriend, not a girlfriend. Actually you should be focusing on what you like to do and developing a hobby. Try reading about current events so you have something to discuss with others.
You should also talk to your doctor about your anxiety. There are lots of medications that can make you feel more comfortable.
I am not sure how you get high, but I would guess it is with illegal drugs. You need to stay away from them. And if you begin taking medication for anxiety, you need to stay away from alcohol use. These things do not mix. You must be honest with your doctor and maybe get treatment for substance abuse.
2006-11-04 19:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may want to start believing that you are worth being with.
If you have social anxiety- consider visiting a dr to talk to him/her about getting a presription for medication to treat a disorder like that ( the dr would know best) - dont drink with any meds.
OR you can see a therapist to explore why you feel this way about yourself- a good Cognitive behavioral therapist will help you. Check out the moodgym link below- I read an article that stated websites like these can help alter your negative self thinking.
What you think is what you feel. Start believing in yourself- you are only 22- the world is your oyster.
2006-11-04 19:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Andi S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take it easy and chill out!
Those people that don't really want your company are really worthless!
That tells me they don't know how to really treat a good friend like you right.
Just really move on and live an independent life like i do.
I can't tell you if you'll live alone forever because i am really not a fortune teller. Sorry i can't help you with that question to answer. It is really a maybe....
2006-11-04 19:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooooh, Sorry, you are destined for a life of lonliness unless you get over yourself and your anxiety disorder. Meeting other lesbians is not difficult, one slip of the tonuge and you will have a lot of new friends.
2006-11-04 19:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by angelofdreams19881 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you shouldn't be insecure like that because people can sense it. People don't want to be with a low-esteem person. Everyone has hobbies it's pretty much what you like doing in your spare time or whatever makes you happy. I think you should find yourself before finding out who the other person you want to be with is.
2006-11-04 19:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by Steven Fenix 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you wont be alone forever. I believe that everybody has someone. You'll find your match. You're only 22. I'm sure you'll find someone! Not to worry, you still have a long time to find someone!
2006-11-04 19:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Vanessa<3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cheer up chick, it aint that bad, get away from the booze,get an anti-depressant,ive been doin this chic and I LOVE IT, P.S.. she was depressed and doin other girl but not no mo!! im 44yrs OLD and im a dang good lookin MAN
2006-11-04 19:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a GF that gets drunk and high so you can bond.
2006-11-04 19:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by jwurm99 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋