Before I start my story I will say it, I AM GAY. If you cant be mature about this that don't bother reading on. Me and my boyfriend Jesus have had a strong seemingly unbreakable relationship for the past 3 years. I turned 17 this June. About 3 days after that me and my dad got in a huge fight. My mom died when i was 8, Im not quite sure how though. My dad kind of beat me a little from when I was 4 to when I was about 12. Then It got a whole lot better, but sometimes he did beat me a little. But he has a bad anger issue.. he can't help it. Well, when we got in the bad fight it was late at night. He was so mad. He left the room to get something then i was out the back door. I was so mad at him, and i was also afraid of what he might do. Me and jessus moved all the way to San Fransisco to live with his older brother.On the way we eloped.Jesus got a job but i couldn't find one. we are still living together but me and Jesus are no longer in love.he will kick me out soon. What can I do?
2006-11-04 11:02:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just go home dude :-)
2006-11-04 12:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess there are various options open to you - the knack is trying to work out which one is going to best for you.
1 Try and get some work in the area and if he asks you to leave, rent somewhere nearby - this makes some sense if you like the area and would not mind "bumping into your friend" from time to time.
2 You could presumably try and return home - have you had any conversation with your dad recently? Would he let you back? would you want to go back if he did?
3 Perhaps return to your hometown but stay with friends until you can find aplace of your own?
4 See if there is a way to sort things out with your friend - what changed? Have you talked about it?
Other folks - and more importantly, YOU - might come up with other ideas and possibilities. Some of which might be better ideas than others.
You mentioning your dad a fair bit and the loss of your mum makes me wonder if these are things that you could benefit chatting through either with a close friend or perhaps some sort of counsellor. I realise money might prevent the latter unless there are charitable organisations - but you might find some help in a gay organisation perhaps? Sort of a drop-in centre perhaps? They may even be able to help you find some accomodation for a while.
I really hope things pick up for you soon.
2006-11-04 11:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, when you're young a relationship is way more responsibilty than you need. The two of you were way too young to think that you might be together "forever."
In any event, you never stay with someone based on the fear of being alone. If you no longer love each other then you need to leave. First get a job, if it's McDonald's by day and Wal-mart by night, do it. If nothing else you'll get money and develp a strong work ethic, seriously.
If Jesus cares about you then he will allow time for you to get yourself together so you can move. Carefully screen the classified ads for a roommate and meet with them for lunch or dinner to feel that person out. Find another relative to live with for say 6 months or so ago. You may try to talk to your Father. You are 17 now and noone should be beating on you. Write down all your ideas and take action.
Don't make excuses for people who have an anger management problem. They can help it and they need to get professional help. You were a child and you were treated badly. I was by my mother.
Now, it's time to do a little bit of growing up and take care of yourself. You are too young in my opinion to be on your own, so first get a job or two, talk to your father or another relative (this may be best), work hard and stay safe.
2006-11-04 11:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by indepwman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, you're dad just can't help being a total asshole and beating the crap out of you? you've got some major issues hiding behind your gay front my man. get help fast.
2006-11-04 11:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by burnttoast97 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
eploded? is that like a really explosive marriage? Did you see fireworks and now they fizzled out? Go home and start over.
2006-11-04 11:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grow up learn to take care of yourself!!!! SORRY
2006-11-04 11:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋