Feast or Starve, that is what my mother says. I've just started dating again, after a child and a long single spell. Now, I'm ready for that relationship. I want to complete my family. I have two candi-dates, who are both seemingly worthy. One is more financially stable and the other is charm and personality all the way. So should I chase after one or the other. Or, should I take on the challenge of juggling them both?
2006-11-04 11:00:44 · 20 answers · asked by Quell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would date them both casually for a while and be honest about it. Im sure in time the answer will be obvious as to which one, if either, you want to be with for the rest of your life.
2006-11-04 11:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said how far either of these relationships have gone, but provided neither of them is too serious yet, I'd just let them know that you are not at the point of commitment just yet. Then see them both and start pondering their pros and cons - and what it might be like 5-10 years down the road. You're talking about having a complete family, so this is LONG-term. Will the things that seem "charming" now become childish and silly over time? Will Mr. Responsible become a bore before too long? Really try to imagine it - but there's no crystal ball.
I'm doing the online dating thing, and chatting with a few really nice guys and having that same dilemma. Part of my decision will be made easier once I meet them to find out if there's real "chemistry." Still, I am totally honest in telling them that I am chatting with other guys and actively searching, and that I also expect them to be, too. I explain that once I meet a guy with whom I have strong enough feelings to take it to a physical level, I will cut all ties with the others and be completely monogamous.
2006-11-04 11:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say juggle them both but if they find out about each other than neither one of them might want you. not 2 b mean. Maybe you should choose the one that you think you have the most in common with and the one that will be best with your child but keep the other ones number just in case it doesnt work out
2006-11-04 11:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a relationship then you should be talking about juggling either one of them and i'll say which is the lesser of 2 evils. which are you more attracted to? which do you see more of a future with? and stick to the old saying never leave the one you love for the one you like
2006-11-04 11:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just say, leave the juggling to the clowns in the circus or make a clown of yourself.
2006-11-04 11:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by oops1388 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just date the both of them until you can decide which is better for you....when i say date i mean just go out...avoid being sexually active with both....the old courting method....it will give you a chance to get to know them and help you decide which qualities they have are better for your situation....
2006-11-04 11:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let them know that you are dating. Make sure they know that you are seeing other people. If they really like you, then they will understand. They will try that much harder to get you.
2006-11-04 11:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Babygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First feel lucky you have 2, then think which do you want to be in love and poor or have money and buy what you want?
2006-11-04 11:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by connie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would choose the charm and personally causer he want always be working and want get less mad the financial one will always be work in and to busy for you
2006-11-04 11:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by erika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juggle them both for awhile. You deserve it. Want another? :)
2006-11-04 11:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋