my stepdaughters my has not seen her in two years my husband doesn't want her to even talk to her on the phone. I don't want her to be confused by her mother thats why I agree with my husband are we doing the right thing?
2006-11-04 10:13:45 · 5 answers · asked by baby girl 26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I guess it depends a lot on the age of your stepdaughter. If she is old enough to understand what is going on then l guess she should be old enough to know the difference between right and wrong , good and bad. If it was me, l would let her make up her own mind ( that is ofcourse unless she would be in some kind of danger from her mother ) about whether she wants to talk to her or not. Otherwise you might find that she will hold that against you as she gets older. I understand it is probably tough for you though as it will cause problems with your husband if you go against his wishes, but having said that if you disagree with his decision in my opinion it is your right to have your say also. Sorry l know it is a tough choice but the happiness of your stepdaughter is what is important. RIGHT !!! Good Luck.
2006-11-04 10:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not doing the right thing. Your step daughter has every right to find out who she is. The only way she can do this is by finding her real mum and talking to her then she should be aloud to do this. If your husband and you have raised her the right way she will know what is right and wrong. If you dont let her see her mum, later on down the track it will go against you and you could lose her altogether. Let her make up her own mind.
2006-11-04 18:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If mom wants visitation she can request it in court. Support your husband in his judgement of the situation and keep your ears open for how the child feels about it. if the child and the mother are asking to see each other then accommodations have to be made.
2006-11-05 08:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard. If the mom was abusive or had an addiction problem, I probably would hesitate to let her talk to her. If your husband is just mad at the mom, then I think you should consider letting her talk to the mom.
2006-11-04 18:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she didnt see her because she just didnt want to or if she did something really bad yes
2006-11-04 18:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Doc. s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋